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Why tell the receptionist why I'm seeing the doctor

376 replies

Eldermileniummam · 19/06/2025 07:23

Why do they ask this? Is it so they can give you an appointment with the appropriate person or some other reason?

I usually don't mind but sometimes I'm embarrassed to say and never sure how specific I need to be.

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Parker231 · 19/06/2025 15:51

ruethewhirl · 19/06/2025 15:49

Speaking to someone and being triaged aren't the same thing...

And it’s normally receptionists who do the triaging

ruethewhirl · 19/06/2025 15:54

Papergirl1968 · 19/06/2025 07:46

That is really rude. I’m a GP receptionist and we always stress we aren’t medically qualified. However we do work darned hard, under huge pressure, and take a lot of flack and abuse from patients, all for minimum wage.
I live locally and many of my neighbours are patients but I respect their confidentiality and frankly I’m not interested in their ailments, other than to get them in with the right clinician.
Most of our patients now fill in online triage forms and we have a quick look, mark as urgent for under fives and over 75s, and forward straight to a GP. We do fill in the forms for those who can’t and we have to ask for some details so it can be triaged, but if someone really doesn’t want to say, that’s ok.
I’m kind, compassionate and helpful, and go the extra mile, not a dragon like people often think of us, and frequently patients express their appreciation which is lovely to hear.

You sound like one of the good ones and we need more like you. But if you've been in the job for any length of time, presumably you've come across some receptionists who are rude/abrasive/unhelpful, etc?

People definitely shouldn't tar an entire profession with one brush, and the receptionists at our place have been super helpful to me recently and I'm grateful. And I couldn't do your job, I know receptionists take a lot of unwarranted flak and it's not right. However, I do think some receptionists are in the wrong job and shouldn't be working with people.

ruethewhirl · 19/06/2025 16:08

Parker231 · 19/06/2025 15:51

And it’s normally receptionists who do the triaging

I know. Not sure what point you're making.

Keepingittogetherstepbystep · 19/06/2025 16:17

tuvamoodyson · 19/06/2025 13:52

She pushed a calculator IN YOUR FACE??? Did it hurt???

It's just a saying were I live when something is shoved in your direction to prove they are correct, but 6 tablets a day for 28 days is 168 she was saying it should last 56 days and used a calculator to try and prove it

JohnTheRevelator · 19/06/2025 17:14

Because they're being nosy. 😂 Seriously,I think it's so they can try and fob you off with going to see a pharmacist if they don't think it warrants a doctor's appointment. This does annoy me as they are not medically qualified to judge what is serious or not, and indeed I have heard some awful stories resulting in people being taken seriously ill or even dying because of this.

Parker231 · 19/06/2025 17:24

JohnTheRevelator · 19/06/2025 17:14

Because they're being nosy. 😂 Seriously,I think it's so they can try and fob you off with going to see a pharmacist if they don't think it warrants a doctor's appointment. This does annoy me as they are not medically qualified to judge what is serious or not, and indeed I have heard some awful stories resulting in people being taken seriously ill or even dying because of this.

Who do you think should decide whether and when you should have an appointment?

NHSinterviewupcoming · 19/06/2025 17:25

JohnTheRevelator · 19/06/2025 17:14

Because they're being nosy. 😂 Seriously,I think it's so they can try and fob you off with going to see a pharmacist if they don't think it warrants a doctor's appointment. This does annoy me as they are not medically qualified to judge what is serious or not, and indeed I have heard some awful stories resulting in people being taken seriously ill or even dying because of this.

No, it’s because it’s their job to triage patients.

DeedsNotDiddums · 19/06/2025 17:45

feelingbleh · 19/06/2025 07:27

Because people are stupid and waste appointment you don't have to go into detail. I was at the drs the other day and someone was trying to book an appointment to get antibiotics for a tooth infection.

And how would they have got antibiotics otherwise?

Mackerelfillets · 19/06/2025 18:06

I'm a GP Receptionist. It really is to put you with the right person. We have GP's that specialise in certain areas like Female or Male health, Dermatology, MSK, Geriatric, Paediatrics etc. You're quite within your right to not disclose why you want an appointment but you risk not seeing the best GP for your issue. For example if you wanted to extend your HRT to cover something that would improve your sex drive like testosterone you would def have to see a GP that has a special interest in female health to obtain it.

Lemmywise · 19/06/2025 18:08

DeedsNotDiddums · 19/06/2025 17:45

And how would they have got antibiotics otherwise?

The dentist. Who are contracted to look after dental issues. GP’s are not

Mackerelfillets · 19/06/2025 18:09

DeedsNotDiddums · 19/06/2025 17:45

And how would they have got antibiotics otherwise?

GP's cannot prescribe meds for a dental issue. You have to get them from the dentist. You might get some painkillers if you were lucky but many wont touch it.

Askingforafriendtoday · 19/06/2025 18:14

Most surgeries got rid of the 8am phone call wait/ malarkey quite, a few years ago. You can contact them online via their website...systemconnectnhs
Very efficiient. The triage doctor logs on and sorts out appointments/follow ups accordingly

Fr1tter5 · 19/06/2025 18:19

Askingforafriendtoday · 19/06/2025 18:14

Most surgeries got rid of the 8am phone call wait/ malarkey quite, a few years ago. You can contact them online via their website...systemconnectnhs
Very efficiient. The triage doctor logs on and sorts out appointments/follow ups accordingly

It’s not efficient at ours and many other surgeries. It’s just the same but online and worse as they switch the system off as soon as it’s full which is pdq.

user1485851222 · 19/06/2025 18:20

Similar to the hospital when they triage you. The receptionist ask, so they can decide which health care practitioner would be best seeing you, Dr, nurse, etc, not every ailment needs a GP. Most receptionist hate asking, but they have to as part of their role. (I was a GP HR manager, that's what they did at my surgery).

Fr1tter5 · 19/06/2025 18:21

Parker231 · 19/06/2025 15:51

And it’s normally receptionists who do the triaging

No it isn’t it’s supposed to be a GP

Anon39 · 19/06/2025 18:23

How would the receptionists know which treatment you needed without medical training? They can’t signpost without training it’s risky and a slippery slope - My son presented with tonsillitis symptoms got fobbed off with seeing a clinician who missed the diagnosis of sepsis - son hospitalised for 3 days very unwell.

Trishthedish · 19/06/2025 18:24

Fundayout2025 · 19/06/2025 07:34

This has been going on for years. Most of us are intelligent enough to know whether we need to see a doctor, nurse or whoever without being made to disclose our medical information to some unqualified jumped up receptionist. .

Wow. That jumped up receptionist has obviously wasted her time being trained to make appointments with the appropriate member of the medical team.

Parker231 · 19/06/2025 18:27

Fr1tter5 · 19/06/2025 18:21

No it isn’t it’s supposed to be a GP

The Receptionist is trained to signposts patients to the correct person - this might not be a GP.

pollymere · 19/06/2025 18:28

I make less urgent appointments online now. You can leave the box explaining why you need an appointment blank or just write issue with knee etc. I didn't want to announce the reason and they had no problem — the Dr just asked me when I arrived.

Irishbookworm · 19/06/2025 18:39

Fundayout2025 · 19/06/2025 07:34

This has been going on for years. Most of us are intelligent enough to know whether we need to see a doctor, nurse or whoever without being made to disclose our medical information to some unqualified jumped up receptionist. .

Those unqualified jumped up receptionists are usually just doing their job as directed by their bosses, the doctors. I can assure you as a past medical receptionist, I don’t want to know your business any more than you want to tell it.

MyHouseInThePrairie · 19/06/2025 18:43

PeckyGoose · 19/06/2025 07:30

Presumably so they can find the most appropriate clinician for your problem. Our surgery has GPs, nurses, prescribing nurses, paramedics, pharmacists, physiotherapists and mental health practitioners. Most people calling saying "I need to see a GP" are actually far better off seeing an alternative clinician, which frees up the GP appointments for those who actually need them which in turn means they stand a chance of actually getting an appointment

MOST people are better seeing someone else than a GP.

😂😂
You’re pretty lucky to not have to face seeing a nurse and then being told you should see a GP anyway
Seeing a physio that gives up and sends you back to GP etc..
All of which would have been avoided if you had seen the GP in the first place,

Seriously, it’s so hard to see a GP that I think most people will see a nurse etc… before at the very least to be seen quickly.

Chinsupmeloves · 19/06/2025 18:44

To assess the severity I guess. I don't mind saying bit of it's anything embarrassing I would be general or say personal.

BurntBroccoli · 19/06/2025 18:46

feelingbleh · 19/06/2025 07:31

Definitely I had great treatment from a pharmacist recently walked in and out within 10 minutes with antibiotics for a sinus infection

Good to know they can prescribe for sinusitis now.

Blablibladirladada · 19/06/2025 18:46

They triage and assess your credibility/situation/emergency.

I only called for babies having rash and pretty sure already of what they had. I was asked pictures. Didn’t even go there. Is it mad? Yes!!! Is it great? Well my kids are still ok but if you happen to disagree with the diagnostic…might be more tricky.

MyHouseInThePrairie · 19/06/2025 18:47

Irishbookworm · 19/06/2025 18:39

Those unqualified jumped up receptionists are usually just doing their job as directed by their bosses, the doctors. I can assure you as a past medical receptionist, I don’t want to know your business any more than you want to tell it.

Except when they don’t…

Like when I went to see a nurse for persistent daily headaches. The best person apparently .
Except I have a complex health history and it actually ended up with me seeing my cardiologist instead….

Some times, patients know their body and their history best. Better than the nurse in that case. And certainly better than the receptionist who refused to book me with the GP…..