Hi I’m just looking for some advice ,
i have a 4 month old. And I have never been with his father it was a one time thing and I fell pregnant. When I told him I was pregnant he demanded a dna test. Which I said if you pay for it I’ll have one done . I knew he was his as I hadn’t been with anyone before him a while He never got one . He had a girlfriend which I didn’t know about until i was already 3 months pregnant. He came to see him a few days after he was born. Then he vanished for 9 weeks in total. Then decided he wants to be in his life so i gave him another chance . Same happened again for 2 weeks. Then he came back . But every time he has another girl on the go he doesn’t come and see his son. Then when he has nobody that’s when he comes back. I put a stop to this and blocked him. His mum also told me to stop him seeing my baby. Cut long story short he wants to take my son over night . But I refuse this as he sells drugs. I am scared of my son picking something up when he gets older and eating it. Also he is on Claire’s law which I didn’t not know about I didn’t even think to check. I just don’t want my son in any danger . He hasn’t proved to me that he is a good dad . He lets him down all the time . And now because iv put a stop to it all I’m being made out to be the bad one cause I ain’t putting up with it anymore. And to be honest I am not ready for my son to leave me he relys on me for comfort he can only go to sleep on me. He’s in a routine and I don’t want this to be ruined . He doesn’t provide for him. Never has in the whole 4 months , he claims ‘he’s only got cash and can’t get to me’ to give the money . But lives 5 mins away in a car/taxi. If he wants a lift somewhere he gets one . But when it’s for child support he can’t . I’m not comfortable with my son going to his flat . He isn’t on birth certificate and doesn’t want to go to court