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House doesn't feel like mine... Sell it?

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DesTeeny · 18/06/2025 23:17

My MIL died last year, and left DH everything (only child, FIL died when DH was a child). DH wanted to move back to his family home and despite having a lot of reservations, I eventually agreed.

We (I) renovated the entire house, new kitchen, bathrooms, carpets/flooring, windows, solar panels, heat pump and painted and decorated every room. We've had new sofas, beds, cabinets, plates, coffee machine... anything we could afford to replace within our budget, we have done, as our old house was very run down and we'd been saving for new furniture anyway so we didn't want to bring knackered old stuff with us.

So, now we've moved in (about three months), but the house still feels like my MIL's even though it looks completely different, and it's just how I designed it. I don't know how to make it feel anymore like our house than it does already, but I just don't want to be here.

To not drip feed, MIL was vile to me and I do worry that's clouding my judgement a bit, but I don't know how to get past the feeling.

WIBU to suggest we sell up and start afresh somewhere new, even though we've done all this work?

OP posts:
GnomeDavid · 18/06/2025 23:25

Yeah sell it. Life is too short

EggMonster · 18/06/2025 23:27

At three months no house feels like yours yet. Give it at least a year.

PeapodMcgee · 18/06/2025 23:29

Give it more time. A year is a good shout.

StopStartStop · 18/06/2025 23:30

If you're staying for a bit, every time you get a negative late-MIL thought, address it with 'But this is my home now.' Teach your brain. After a while, if you still aren't settled, move on.

Devianinc · 18/06/2025 23:35

Yeah, I get that. You can’t get rid of vile.

Devianinc · 18/06/2025 23:36

Bad, bad taste in your mouth is hard to get rid of. Also, are you on the deed as half owner, I hope

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