I started a new job around 5 months ago at a very small company. There are 3 women of a similar age (me included) and both were friendly with me when I started - we work literally next to each other, 5 days a week.
A couple months ago, I noticed that one had suddenly started to get significantly closer to the other one. Eg would constantly make jokes about how in sync they both were, if we had team nights out would sidle up to other colleague and put arm around her, kept taking photos of the three of us on nights out and then exclaiming how pretty the two of them both were (!). Inviting colleague to long lunches in front of me etc etc.
I obviously have no issue with workplace friendships but it felt quite pointed and deliberate. The other girl would just laugh and go along with it all.
I feel like now it’s got to the point where it’s just sad. I’ll make an effort with both, ask how they are, have a chat / laugh, offer to grab coffees - but feel completely frozen out by this “mean girl”. Obviously they’re entitled to have a friendship but it feels obvious and exclusive. I think ivecause it’s such a small environment it also feels really noticeable and is bringing me down.
im very cheerful and sociable, fairly quiet at work, and probably occasionally present as a bit anxious. This job is new to me so want to get it right. I generally don’t have trouble making friends at all but this is really getting me down. Any solutions or just look to leave ultimately?