Wish men would break up with me

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Gah. My ex wasn’t in love with me, he told me when I broke up with him (because he was taking the piss with house work and money). If you aren’t in love with me 6 years in, why the fuck are you still here?

I thought things were going well with my current boyfriend but there’s been a few things recently that have caused me to question. Having been in the situation on a number of occasions before where men haven’t been able to muster the courage for a break up, but just start manufacturing situations to push you to it. I can’t work out what is happening here.

I don’t know if I’m reading too much into stuff and starting to spiral, or if this is another one who isn’t for real

If you’re not happy, why don’t you just end the relationship rather than wait for him to do it?

Because I don’t know if it’s a genuine mistake which he said it was and I am now reading to much into other things. Logically I think this is the case, but I have been so hurt repeatedly previously I am struggling.

I wish previous people were honest and upfront and hadn’t eroded my trust so much.

Potentially I am judging him based on too many bad experiences, rather than fairly.

I want to let things go, but have flipped in protect mode. If I could trust that when men had had enough they would just be clear, then I could relax and let things slide a bit more

Some men don’t have the courage to have a difficult conversation, especially if the partner will get upset. They don’t want the tears and drama. So they continue treating you worse and worse until you make the decision to leave and they’re not the one to end it. An ‘easy’ out, especially if they’re ghosting you periodically too. Spineless behaviour, but sadly common. Leave when the disrespect creeps in. It doesn’t get better after that.