My mother had to attend ER earlier today for a worsening ear infection. Several hours and tests later, and she is still there, and has been told she will need to undergo further testing to ascertain the potential cause.
Her brother drove her there (she couldn’t drive or take a taxi apparently due to the pain), and stayed with her for the first few hours, he then had to go home because he is working a night shift later. Initially the agreement was that my husband would then meet her there and stay with her and bring her home when she is discharged. However, I’m heavily pregnant and we also have two young children (aged 2 and 4) who are currently very difficult to settle. As the time wore on, my husband suggested instead that he would collect my Mom and being her home after being discharged, but couldn’t go and spend the evening with her, waiting indefinitely for the tests etc.
Since agreeing this with Mom, she has become very unpleasant and emotionally guilt tripping us (saying that she would always accompany us to hospital - I was admitted with a serious eye infection last year and she didn’t once offer to accompany me, same with DH when he attended ER following a work accident the year before). We understand that she is worried and probably feels let down and lonely, but I would honestly struggle to settle my two children on my own and in my condition, and we feel their needs come first. Essentially my mom is just wanting a companion to chat with. DH is now waiting to hear that he can go and collect her and take her home. Who is being unreasonable?