To have zero hobbies 😢

[Herewegoagainno100]

I’m interested to hear from fellow mums, what if any hobbies do you have where you actually meet other people? I fear my life has just become work and being a parent with occasional meet ups with old friends. Please inspire me to find something that will lift me out of my depressed mood and motivate me again. Ps I’m socially awkward!

Following in the hope of being inspired, too.

What’s just life I think. I go gym 3/4 times a week which massively helps me mentally and physically but it’s with my headphones in so not connecting with anyone else.

what do you like doing?

What did you like doing as a kid?

Same here, introvert in the extrovert’s job. As long as your keep fit in some way, do you even need social life?

If it’s not coming to you naturally, it will be another bloody chore to maintain a once you commit to something. I fix my craving for novelty and me-time by doing something different each month - it can be a day out with agenda, a cinema, nails done, choose a corner in the house to decorate with a few bits, research skincare and try something new. My next obsession will be placemats for garden table and fancy prism ice cube forms, and to have a cocktails and tapas night with just DH outside, candlelight into midnight.

I’ve joined sports clubs. Always super sociable. Running, circuit training, hockey. Gets you out the house a couple times a week. Makes you some new friends.

I’m an Introvert as well. Not for everyone but I go to church, they always have lots of social stuffs where I go to for kids and adults which I can pick which one suits me.
Otherwise, I just do things for myself. I go to the cinema sometimes, go to the cafe with a book, I do exercise but it’s at home as can’t deal with human in the gym, was learning the piano online sometime ago but not done it recently, start a house diy project that’ll keep me busy for some weekends, etc.

@Herewegoagainno100 me too! I used to love cooking until it became I chore!

Two years ago I decided to challenge an unhelpful thought I had that I was too old to learn anything new. I was also aware of spending lots of time unproductively on screens. So I decided I’d like to learn to play an instrument and three days later had sourced a piano on Marketplace and had it delivered. It cost £150 all in. I signed up for virtual piano lessons and I love them, they’re a real highlight of my week. My music school has classes and events that bring students together, so there are opportunities to mix and mingle as well.

I just signed up with Play Netball, got allocated to a local team and turned up for my first match last week. It was brilliant!

I go to two book clubs and made lots of friends through them

Well what did you like to do before you were a mum?
I do various crafts. My sister has joined a local choir.

Book club, walking group, life drawing, salsa, pilates, am dram, volunteering.

I'm a big fan of the arts. Music is my first love so I go to lots of gigs and festivals but I also occasionally go to plays, musicals, art exhibitions, stand up comedy, all sorts.

I do a couple of regular gym classes.

I love nature and the great outdoors so I camp, walk, hike, sometimes do water sports. I walk my dog daily.

I belong to 2 book clubs, one face to face and the other over zoom.

I'm very sociable and love to entertain, visit friends, meet for a drink or a coffee, anything.

I really enjoy my monthly hair and beauty appointment (I spend the whole day there getting everything done in the same place).

I have many friends who I share various interests with.

My hobbies naturally took a back seat whilst the DC were small but over the last couple of years I've started to make a lot more time for myself (they're 12 & 9).

@ZiggyPlaysGuitarrr that sounds lovely. Do you mind sharing if you work?

I joined a tennis club. I never played sport or was part of any club as a child and I wanted to take up something. I didn’t overthink it, I just jumped in at beginner level and it’s been brilliant

I joined a Tuneless Choir. They are all over the country. It’s great fun, we meet once a week and we perform at local events but you don’t have to perform if you don’t want to. It’s a very relaxed hobby and you don’t need to worry about being good at it. Everyone is there to just have fun.

Outside of work, I’m a Girlguiding leader, do yoga and Pilates classes every week, do craft workshops from time to time either solo or with friends. I also do some other volunteer work for a small local charity.

I’ve found the volunteering with GG and local charity in particular a fantastic way to meet a lot of people and become involved in the community.

I am at the other end of Motherhood retired with an adult child, I also relocated for work over my lifetime so had to start afresh knowing absolutely no one and then with DH.

Voluntary work
Dancing lessons, tried 4 types
Art classes
Pottery classes
Writing group
Walking and Hiking groups
Yoga
Pilates
Choirs
Flower arranging in a team at church

The two that have gleaned proper friendships are voluntary, I have done some sort of voluntary work most of my life. The other is my walking and hiking groups.

Through voluntary work I have 2 friendships that have been going 30 years. That was volunteering by assisting people with their employment rights. We live an hour away from each other, all in touch on a regular basis, one of the others has managed to retire early, the other is still at work FT.

Very part time, due to ill health. I've actually been in and out of hospital a lot over the last couple of years, been bedridden for weeks at a time, been unable to walk unaided at various points. And yet at other times I feel fairly good. So I throw myself into as much as I can when I'm feeling well enough because I never know how long it will last.

I am an introvert! I swim in the mornings before work at a beautiful lido. It helps my resilience and mood so much, but it's really not a social hobby!
About a year ago I signed up to evening sewing classes at my local adult education college. I bought a basic sewing machine and a few bits of kit. I really love both attending the classes and working away on my own projects at home. Sewing demands a lot of concentration so it feels like I've been away from the world if I do an hour or two. And I chat to lots of nice, like minded people in the class, but if I just want to work on my project and not talk to anyone I can do that too. It's a very gentle relaxing environment.

I love time to myself, and am possibly away abroad for a few days ALONE

I joined a family orientated martial arts club, which I agree sounds horrific. It's been the best choice ever. I can go on the mats, sometimes we work alone, sometimes together, and I've made friends there, and never been hurt. We support each other like you wouldn't believe, and are always open to new members. Try something random, you never know where it may take you (and I'm fitter than I've ever been!)

Reading, crochet and wine!!!!!! - oh and I love going to the cinema.

How about joining a choir?
there’s loads of community choirs where you don’t need to be a brilliant singer.
They tend to be fun and social but there’s something to focus on so not too much time spend making small talk.

I do gym classes which is great as I get to say hello to people but also have my own time. I do lots of solo stuff like geocaching and I go to see sports events when I can (I always ask the children if they want to come, occasionally they do but usually they don’t).

Not a hobby as such but I joined a book club. Initially, the person who set it up had 2 groups on different nights, then we merged as people dropped out. We then had problems with the venue which I think limited it even more.

We now have about half a dozen of us, different ages and backgrounds - it's lovely.

In terms of hobbies, I like crafts but that doesn't get me meeting people.