Dodgy Landlord

[bellx]

So last night about 9:30, I got a message from my landlord asking how I was which was really weird because he never messages me and we haven’t spoken since January, I responded with I’m good how are you? Is there a problem? He then text back two hours later to say no problem, I’ll speak to you tomorrow And then he messaged again at 12:30 but then deleted the message. This morning I messaged him saying I’m free between nine and three and to call me, he did and he asked whether I’m seeing anyone or anything. I was like no, he then said he would like to come speak to me about something. So we had agreed on Thursday, I assumed he was going to give me an eviction notice but then he rang an hour late to say oh I’m local. I’m just gonna pop round. I was like no don’t come in. I’ll come outside because I’m obviously I’m working so I went outside and I sat in his car, I was thinking he was about to give me a formal eviction notice and then he was like what do you think of me and you getting married!!!! i was shocked because he is married himself but apparently there separated! I just sat there shocked and then he proceeded to give me loads of different proposals of what he wanted.

It was stuff like me and him get married or us secretly get an Islamic marriage or if I wanted to marry his friend from Dubai who wants a second wife or if we can start dating and see how it goes and then his last proposal was whether I was willing to help his friend move here by doing just a legal marriage and then he would give me money for it obviously I had said no to each and every stupid thing he said.

I’ve just been sat here all day in shock and I don’t know how to feel and I feel like I need to move out from this flat ASAP I’m feeling very uncomfortable and very weird. I live alone with my 7 year old son and I don’t know what to do or how to proceed with this weird situation 😩.

AIBU to want to move from here asap?

I would be looking for somewhere else to live.

Well, not an expression I usually use but WTF! If you can, I would look at moving and don’t tell him where to. Also, in the meantime, if he comes round again, don’t get in his car - I don’t think you can be too careful.

Does he have a spare key to your home? I’d be bolting my doors whenever you are at home.

I would actually be recording this somewhere, potentially with the police. They won't do anything, but just in case and it might help you if he tries to fight you on your deposit or you leaving early.

Just say you felt unsafe, tell them what he said and that you just want them to make a note of it in case the situation escalates. A friend did this and they were surprisingly helpful.

That’s dreadful bellx. Yes, report him to the Police. I assume he’s managing the property himself. Are you in an area where landlords need a licence (this is rare in the UK apart from HMOs but it may be worth checking)? And definitely move. Good luck

You can report it online OP, absolutely log it with the police as well and try and arrange to move ASAP. Have you got a ring bell in case he does return?

https://www.gov.uk/report-immigration-crime

I would definitely start by changing the locks.

The good news is that Renters Rights are pretty robust and getting more so.
That means that while I agree you SHOULD try and move out asap you don't have to. There is a risk he will refuse to give you a Reference for another rental but there is not much you can do about that
Check your deposit is properly protected and all paperwork from The LL is correct and up to date and document everything from your LL and to your LL going forward.
Be aware that despite what your contract might say you do NOT have to allow him access to the property even if he gives 24 hours notice