Despite mom needing help

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DS(6y) lost his testicle due to torsion.
I’m wondering if there are moms in here who have kids with one testicle. I need help on how you handle it? How did you tell them? When it comes to contact sport did you let them participate.

Does he not know he’s lost it already? What has the doctor said about sport?

I know someone who had that happen. He just went about life as normal. Is a little bit protective of the remaining one but does plenty of sporty things, cycles, climbing etc.

I can't remember what age exactly he was when it happened, quite young. I would just be factually age-appropriate and not make it a big deal.

ToKittyornottoKitty, he only knows that the dictator fixed the problem. We have decided not to tell him now fearing that he might share it with everyone and could affect his feelings. About sports we get different answers from different doctors, that’s why I am asking for a real life experience.

TimeForTeaAndG, thank you so much.I am trying to make it not a big deal, but as a mom there are always feelings when something happens to the kids.

You need to mention it now otherwise when? Just say it in a casual way which won’t worry him. Just like it was causing you lots of the pain so the doctor has taken it off. And now you’re not in pain anymore, that’s good isn’t it

Thank you, will try that. Every day I’m trying to mention to him that we all are different and there are some people with one and others with two testicle, hoping that will prepare him. To be honest that is the hardest bit and it breaks my heart every time I think about it.

My son only knows that the doctor fixed the problem.the Pain was already stopped when doing the surgery. The doctors were almost sure that it untwisted it self(after doing ultrasound) and they explained to us that operation was only to check and prevent that from happening agian. It was a shock when we get the result as it was not what we expected.i was shocked my self and took me days to accept what has happened.

I think it’s just best to be honest about it now. He’s little and it’s easy to accept these things, they removed one as it was broken but he has another and it’s not a big deal. Lying to him long term would damage your relationship and be more likely to make him feel like there’s something wrong with him. Put your own anxiety aside and just make this nice and easy for him

Just be open and honest and really casual about it. It's better that, than him realising something is wrong and not knowing what. I've known kids that internalised that they were dying of cancer etc because health stuff wasn't disclosed.

To be honest, I know it must have been very scary in the moment, but you sound like you are really having a hard time with this. He is healthy and fine and this won't impact his life. He will still have kids etc

I gently suggest you take your panic down a few notches. He is okay and he will be okay going forwards now. You are looking after him and it isn't the end of the world.

Chat to your doctor, but I am pretty sure he can still play contact sports as long as he wears a protective cup.

Thank you so much, I really appreciate your advice. I will definitely do that very soon.

Thank you for your reply. Does he have kids? How was his puberty stage?

Thank you so much, you really understand my situation. I’m very scared thinking too much.your positive comment will definitely help me. It’s some times hard when you facing something that you don’t expect at all. I hope that I’m feeling this way because it’s fresh.

I did try to tell my son today. We have had a conversation about the operation day and asked him if he knows what has happened. I explained to him that it was because of the pain that they have to remove it. his reply was can they not fix it and put it back. I told him that it might cause much pain again then he starts to tell me about the game he played at school I am not sure if he really understood or not. I don’t know if I am exaggerating or not but my heart kept breaking.I feel like everything was my fault.