To feel so deflated. Is it me or them?

[BrightGrapes]

Just fed up of fighting and am trying to work out why I’m disliked so much.

Main issue is school where my DC was refused a school placement due to his EHCP. He got his place but they have been down on me and him
ever since. Examples - only giving him parental support on a school trip and he was left behind in a toilet, no support during a school play (yet telling me he needs support for every part of the day and is high needs), being shouted at for asking to see evidence of speech interventions. I asked about support during a trip out today and was snapped at again.

Then my job is also in a school. Last week we were ‘blamed’ for giving a child the wrong food. We are always careful, label the food - what had happened is a member of staff had recorded incorrectly. We pointed out some nails sticking out of a wall (still not dealt with a week later). A child had a minor accidental bump and because the parent is difficult it became a huge issue. I’ve now been asked (told) to move department - but none of this was my fault and I don’t know why I’ve been singled out to move.
What I’m grasping on to is that I work for a voluntary organisation where my child is so happy and fully included. I also feel completely valued there, I know I’m making a difference and my efforts are fully appreciated.

Is it me?

There are lots of different threads to that op. Your child's school sound awful. The incidents in the school you work in... It sounds like "you" personally are not disliked or blamed or responsible for the food incident, but it looks like "you" as in "the school" are responsible, who else would it be. It's unfortunate if it was you personally who took the brunt of the parental complaint about it, but that won't be personal. Same with the nails thing, although the detail matters.

It's not you. But it is up to you how you react to life's ups and downs, try not to take it so personally. (I'm terrible at taking this advice by the way - I do tend to take things personally, but it's important to try not to and keep it in perspective).