I was played again .

[Kenyaparks]

Me 24 have been talking to this man 28 for about 4weeks now. We met online, he wasn't initially my type, but he was applying pressure and it caught my interest. I met him on hinge he seemed genuine, we live two hours away from each other but he seemed not to mind that. Never met each other we have ft several of times

The first couple weeks we were talking he tried to come and see me for the weekend and rent a room. I was busy both weekends, he ended up going on vacation and was calling me while he was there buying me souvenirs texting me etc, just being very consistent. He came back from vacation and that kinda died down? He only was texting me and stoped calling. He tried to come down the weekend he got back to being me my gifts and take me on a date. I was going to let him, but I really thought about how I knew he would be expecting intimacy from me sense he's renting a room. He didn't directly say that but I already knew. So I just agreed on coming out where he lives that next weekend since me and my family already agreed on going out there during that time.

Make a long story short he was texting me counting down the days to see me, just for me to get out there and him be a slow texter, he sent me the details on our date planned, then right after he said that he had to go into work do to the pipes flooding, how he's on standby for his job and it was an emergency how he couldn't make it .... kept texting me saying he apologizes promising me that he would make it up on Saturday once I got back to my city. I got there on Thursday morning and left Friday afternoon, he kept begging me to just stay the weekend and if I did he would drive me home etc. I declined because I had work on that Saturday. He said he would just come out to see me this weekends to make it up. Kept telling me how he wants to be in my life etc. said he'll just prove it to me. This was all yesterday

Anyways the day has come when he was supposed to drive out here and I haven't heard anything from him at all today I feel soo stupid, was this a game to him ?

this was all last week/weekend

Anyone who was pushing to "rent a room" and promised to ply me with "souvenirs" after only a few texts from a dating App would be told where to go.

Men like him enjoy reeling women in, love the thrill of the chase and you can bet your bottom dollar you wouldn't see him for dust once he'd got what he wanted. He'd lose interest in a nano-second.

Your title suggests you know he's been playing that game, so get rid, block and don't look back, he's vile.

why would i put all this energy into - us just to play

Energy? He sent a load of texts in the hope of sex? Sounds about right.

When people tell you to look for consistent effort and energy from a guy to show he is interested in you they are talking about a much higher bar than texts over a few weeks. They're talking about actually meeting up, treating you well (that doesn't just mean buying you dinner, bringing you a "gift" and calling you princess".

Do you still believe he bought you a souvenir from his holiday?

How was he supposed to contact you yesterday when he said he would come, if you have blocked him?

However now I've seen his texts I'd say keep him blocked!

Something here feels very off. I’m glad he’s blocked, trust your gut. The whole way he is expressing himself after knowing you online for such a short time is OTT.
I’m much older than you and I know things work differently now but maybe try doing different hobbies and things to meet people in real life. I don’t mean that in a patronising way- and maybe it sounds a bit silly- but this guy sounds dodgy to me and it’s really hard to get a sense of people online (at least for me). Stay safe.

Something here feels very off

understatement of the year! 😃

Where are you both from, he 100% doesn’t sound like English is his first language? Not that it’s an issue, but it’s suspicious if he claims it is.

Queen and Princess are scammer terminology.

They probably have loads of other people they are scamming along at the same time so much easy to use the same nickname to all of the victims rather than use your actual name.

You were told a week ago he was giving off red flag vibes when you posted and asked about him (same as the one you'd been talking to a few days before this one)

Is he 14?
Chuck him back into the sea

Even if it’s not a scam, this all seems a bit much for someone you’ve been talking to online for a month.

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Absolutely this. He would have lost me at these words and, as a PP said, I don't think they are 'locally' (national/western world/real life) used so much 🤔

All of this, @Kenyaparks .

Never, ever date a man who calls you Princess or Queen…… especially if he has not even met you.

Stop over investing in people you haven’t met yet. If you meet someone online and there’s potential arrange a date quickly instead of entering the pen pal phase. If you don’t arrange dates with people who live miles away that will
be easier to do. Also be really explicit that you’re not looking for anything casual and don’t rush in to physical intimacy. This should weed out a fair few of the less serious men but shouldn’t put off anyone looking for a serious relationship.

OP, EVERYTHING you put in your op was a red flag and an indication that you should have blocked him immediately. Not a sign he was interested and you should have stuck around.

As much as anything the use of Princess and Queen indicate he was copying and pasting messages to several women and it reduces the chance that he'll use the wrong name.

The drop in communication is because he wasn't getting what he wanted from you quickly enough and was investing elsewhere.

His interest in you wasn't genuine.

He devoted the time to it because this is like a job to him.

He’s probably married. You have had a great escape.

OP, I'm sorry this has happened to you but I would advise running a mile from anyone who sent those messages. As pps have said, 'Queen' and 'Princess' are just yucky and totally insincere from someone you haven't even met.

Save yourself a lot of humiliation and stress and just block this person - he's never going to show up in real life.

Run. And stop dating until you develop a better sense of boundaries. It all screams scam but he’s managed to reel you in which suggests a degree of vulnerability.

He is a scammer. Block and move on.

www.freedomprogramme.co.uk if this is not the first time you have fallen for such an obvious bullshitter.

The language queen and princess would make me itch.
Ick.

Mmm...basically what everyone else has said.

He keeps telling you how he wants to be in your life and he hasn't even met you yet?
Red flags galore. Run far and run fast.

If a man I'd never even met and had only ever talked to online was sending me messages like this, I'd think they were either catfishing or insane. This isn't remotely normal or convincing behaviour.

Anyone who tries to pressure you can get lost - seriously you do not need to put up with this.

Anyone who calls you “princess” is a nob as well.

Exactly the vibe I was getting too!

Princess?
Queen?
Flaky as fuck?

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Yeah. Keep him blocked.