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Autistic and finding it hard to stick to a job

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Tiredtweenmum · 16/06/2025 20:00

i am an autistic woman. I also had an abuse filled childhood (which I’m not sure is relevant or not). I struggle to stick to a job. I last a year or so and then become miserable in that job.
part of it is a trauma response I think as I start pushing people away to save myself from when they do that to me. But also I start hating the job. I am sick of getting fed up with a job and then moving jobs again. It also looks bad on my CV.
Has anyone had this problem who is autistic or experienced trauma?

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Sparrow7 · 16/06/2025 20:03

Every job I've ever had has made me miserable.

Reversetail · 16/06/2025 20:05

Yes

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 16/06/2025 21:29

Yanbu, I'm autistic and have experienced a lot of trauma - I've struggled with every job i had, which led to inevitable isolation and bullying

I think you need to see what you can do, maybe find a different way of working, or start your pip/uc application x

IReallyLoveItHere · 16/06/2025 21:44

I have ASD. I'm really not cut out for work and moved pretty much every 12 months when I was younger. Fortunately it didn't seem to matter.

I was just about to move job again when I fell pregnant and stayed for the maternity pay, then because I was too knackered to do anything else, then because I didn't think I'd get a job with the same flexibility anywhere else.

I envy people who enjoy they jobs. I've learned to appreciate what mine gives me in terms of flexibility and security and I think with age I've got better with people. Roll on retirement.

If you are still minded to fund something you actually enjoy you light need to switch it up - outside, or evening/night work, or with lots of travel. I think I'd suit antisocial hours.

notmyrealnameok · 16/06/2025 22:04

I’m autistic I had a patern of- start a job, give 200% and be amazing , get sick of the job (due to exhaustion from being so amazing) start to u der perform. Leave due to dismissal/sick of it.

I realised I picked jobs that were unsuitable for me (although suitable for life stage/income etc) for my last job I thought hard about what I wanted and I love books so decided to try fir a library job which luckily I got. I work part time, (I get pip and carers) but I love it. It’s varied but an eliment of repetition , there’s some social interaction but not too much. There straitening shelves up which I love and so many books.

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