Was I harsh here? Watching TV

[BrickSwan]

Me and my partner chose a film we wanted to see (dont live together)
He was texting friends on Instagram at the same time, I've got no issues with that ofc, but then early in the film he interrupted about 3 or 4 times to show me something on the phone, ask me what I thought of a message etc.
So I just said 'Do you still want to watch this?' I thought maybe he wasn't bothered and wanted to just chill.
He immediately said sorry and put the phone away.
I look at my phone during films etc. Sometimes and I'd never expect anyone to not use it at all. Its just as he kept wanting to talk about stuff on the phone so I paused the film a few times as I wanted to watch it.

Wasn't mentioned since and everything fine, but wonder if I came across a bit harsh?

Much ado about nothing. No, you weren't wrong.

Thanks, i do overthink stuff

No good settling down to watch a movie, if he's going to be faffing about on his phone and interrupting your enjoyment. 😊

my DH is always interrupting films, drives me MAD

You were reasonable.

Hands up, I used to be bad for using my phone when watching a film or tv show. Then I realised I didn’t actually watch anything properly, it was just one. Now I don’t look at my phone when watching stuff.

If my partner is looking at their phone while we’re watching something I pause it.

really annoys me

That would piss me right off if my fella kept doing that you've a better temperament than me I'd have dashed the phone straight out of the window followed by the fella ain't got time or patience for that kind of shit

such a non issue

Its a movie at home, its rare you cant have a chat whilst watching one- surely not every second is a massive plot twist

of course you would

The last reply has made me feel harsh. I still feel embarrassed about it, I only meant did he want to just turn the telly off and just do something else.

There's a difference though between 'having a chat' during a film you're both watching and constantly checking your phone. If I'm watching a film with someone else I would expect comments/conversations about the film whilst it's on, I enjoy that, and if they glanced at their phone a couple of times I also wouldn't comment but like OP if they kept showing me stuff and seemed more invested in their phone I'd be thinking 'do you even want to watch this?'

OP I wouldn't worry about it now, it annoyed you but he apologised and put it away and sounds like you didn't fall out so no harm done :)

I get bored watching tv, I would be on my phone or doing other things to. I wouldn't interrupt those watching it however.

But I just need to check the screen when something happens!

I do all my admin in front of movies and all the school and kids stuff!

You are being unreasonable because this is a complete non issue.

Depends on the tone? If you were snapping the question then that might be a bit harsh, if you were asking with a tone that meant you could do something different then its fine.

if you’re worried, no harm in saying you hope they didn’t think you were harsh over the film. Be open rather than worry

I love films and see watching films together as a big treat, so I would hate this too. I feel the same about watching prestige cop dramas / thrillers where it’s important to follow the plot. Obviously it’s totally fine to scroll while watching Pointless or Deal Or No Deal or something.

😂 😂
I’m an overthinker also , Funny reading this , how we go over things in our head , that really aren’t big a deal !, it’s fine OP , you weren’t harsh , I’m sure he hasn’t given it a second thought 😊

Does he have ADHD? Sometimes we need to have something else going on in order to concentrate.

He should be keeping it to himself though, it would annoy me being shown messages from his mates 🙄

You didn't do anything wrong. But why are you asking? Has there been a reaction, he's cooled towards you all of a sudden? I'm afraid this sort of tiny incident can trigger his 'ick' where he realises his beloved can actually be a bit of a shrew.