Me,DH and DC (tweenagers) accepted an invitation to a destination wedding. It’s a 3 day Indian wedding - and we’ve just found out that the three days all food and accomodation will all be paid for by the brides family.
The flights didn’t come cheap (over £5k) - and for that reason we’ll be staying on for another week and a half to make the most of it (at our own expense - we had thought we’d be paying for the wedding nights too)
For presents the invitation is quite specific that “nothing is expected” and subtely makes it clear that bringing actual presents is discouraged (bride and groom are flying in themselves so fair enough) but then goes on to give bank details for gifts.
wed love to give something - but how much? The hotel is really expensive - if paying for ourselves we would have paid for something a lot cheaper. Just googled the cheapest room and it’d cost £1,200 for the three nights!
i think we should pay £400 between the four of us - the couple are friends not family and it’s way more than we’d usually give for a uk wedding.
my husband thinks this is insulting and we should
oah for what we think they’ve spent on us - which with room and all the food etc we think is around £2,000.
although we could technically afford it it’d mean we’d really have to cut back on the rest of the holiday - and tighten up for a couple of months too.
AIBU to give less than what they would have spent?