Six weeks ago a family member asked to borrow a couple of shoes for their holiday.
This person has a dramatic life and seems to want to impose themselves on me when sh*t hits the fan, I’m talking 4 times in 8 years. This time it’s been 5 full months of trying to lean on me, I’m talking asking to move in when I have a 7 week old baby (and 2.5 year old), and the rest.
I’ve been pretty stern with her this time around and it’s been a flat out no each time, just meeting every so often (it’s my sister). I thought lending shoes would be a low committal nice thing to do. However, we had a back and forth over message a matter of hours after she left. And haven’t spoken since.
The last thing she said was that she would return from holiday, drop my shoes (lives 10 min away by foot) and leave me alone.
Except she didn’t. I went to reach for my summer shoes yesterday and they weren’t here. It’s infuriated me. Seems she’s holding onto them for leverage or something? I don’t get why. I just want space from her and she knows I need to message her to get them back… but not until I’ve reached for them and they’re not there which makes me want space more. Everything is a drama.
AIBU to think she should have arranged to return them or even dropped them on the doorstep if not wanting to see me. I now have to chase her to return them.