In the past my I have said some awful things to my husband. Afterwards I feel so bad and have decided to never argue with him again. No more yelling, no more cursing it’s tiring. I know couples argue but our arguments get really bad. Last week I went shopping and I had other things to do, but decided to take our groceries home and go back out to finish my errands. On my way home my husband texted me saying he would follow me to the salon. I got caught in a bad storm so after dropping off the groceries I told him he didn’t have to follow me. He called me when I left and asked why. It didn’t make sense for us both to be out in the storm. He hung up on me. I just can not be upset about that anymore. The whole time I was at the salon he started sending nasty text. Basically I’m back to being my old self, I’m running from conflict,we are now in a bad space because of me,there’s no progress,I’m just like my mother. I let him say all those things and didn’t respond in a negative way because I told him I was done arguing. I put us back in this situation because I should have still let him follow me. In the past he’s said when we’re in a argument a demon takes over me. He’s back saying that. I responded and said it’s sad that this is how I get treated he then told me I was playing victim.
if I would have responded when he kept texting I know how things would have ended. I didn’t engage and it still put us here.