This issue never crossed my mind until my ex's sister (our sons autnie) started insinuating that her brother should take our son to visit her and their parents abroad where they live.
My child is 3,5 ... never spend a night with his father, simply becasue it was never a thing. ex lives in a room (something that reminds me of dog kennel) and has taste for smoke. He takes our child out a lot for little adventures here and there but day to day life would be a disaster. I simply dont trust his parental abilities.
Back story of parents - absolute narcs who in my opinion contributed massively to how much of a nutcase my ex is.
mother child psychologist (what) with peculiar desire to manipulate.
sister most sensible.
there is also insane youngest brother , adult ofcourse who still lives with the parents and i know for a fact is selling drugs to people. have a disguistingly unhealthy relationship with parents. (suckerpunched their dad last year or so which they tried to hide from me) there is people coming in and out the house.
i am getting panic attack just writing about it.
WHAT is the audacity for autnie to think i will let my son go. She doesnt have a child and clearly has no clue. How oblivious.
She keeps telling my ex he should start having our child over for nights now to prepare him to go 'one day' SURE. I potentialy would allow for nights under condition of making his room pristine. But not to train my kid to be away from me for days.
They tried to persudade me to visit THEM regulary, after two times i said NO.
when they come here I am kind enough and let them see kiddo every day and im politle to participate and organise the time. Their son always finds a way to get out of it.
I just feel like they are one of the most dysfunctional family I have ever met and I feel like screaming it out loud.
During last visit the grandmother said to my kiddo 'oh maybe you gonna come to visit us with daddy' and i was like maybe when hes 6 . but really i felt like saying 16. ugh