sorry it’s long.
Me and my stbxh have been seperated since October. Currently going through divorce proceedings. He has been extremely difficult the whole way through and down right horrid with his attitudes and behaviours towards me. Mainly because he was completely bluffing this divorce and now is angry it has happened, but he has too much pride to say otherwise.
we have had to live together since October and the environment has been pretty toxic and he refuses to leave even though he has somewhere to go. I am buying him out so he’s moving out anyway. We have a toddler so are careful to be ok around her, but there have been times arguments have happened in front of her.
he booked a holiday as soon as I filed for the divorce in November, to go away with his mum and step dad and our toddler to Spain for 12 nights. He didn’t tell me he was booking it until March this year when it was mostly paid for. I asked him to change it to one week which he is refusing and now says he’s getting a court order for the 12 nights.
Up until recently our daughter has been preferring me over her dad and he doesn’t cope well with this, and often guilt trips her and has also mocked her in the past. This behaviour has calmed down as our daughter is very keen on spending time with him again which is good. but he’s stated I am “bullying” him into changing the holiday. Iv openly said I will pay for the flight change, Iv also said whilst it’s the first holiday can we keep it to a week and then going forward when she’s abit older, she can go for longer.
Also when they go is around the time we will start co parenting so I think it’s a big jump for her to go from her usual routine to being from her mum who’s she’s very attached to for 12 nights. Am I being a bully?