Neighbour dispute

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As the thread title says really, I’ve name changed for this as well as outing.

So I’m currently in a full leg cast, thigh to toe type situation. I’ve been in casts for a few months and likely will stay in for another few months then boot and rehab etc.

I’m a single mum, hundred's of miles from family with limited help friend wise here.

Anyway the current problem is since I smashed my leg into what feels like a thousand smithereens, my front garden has become a bit weedy through the flags. It doesn’t look great a little shabby. My landlord has agreed to pop round and weed kill it/de-weed. But hasn’t given me a date just that he’s going to try and get round asap. He does kind of work on his own time.

My elderly neighbour is being quite unpleasant to me regarding this, every time I leave the house which as you can imagine takes an eternity. I can’t just scarper. He accosts me, telling me my garden is an eyesore and it is stopping him from selling his house. I agree that the garden doesn’t look great and reassure him the landlord is coming soon. As I just can’t manage it right now. To this he usually respond with some form of ‘can’t you sit on the floor’ or ‘surely you can pay someone with the money you’ve got’ to which I respond truthfully I don’t have any money right now I’m skint.

Background is his house has been for sale for four years, and didn’t sell when my garden looked perfect. Because it’s a smokers house and in dire need of around 20k worth of repairs. Needs a whole new roof and guttering, new kitchen and bathroom, damp course and repair to internal walls, all new floors etc. Feedback from viewers is that the house isn’t worth the price and is too much work to take on if they run the risk of not being able to rid it of the smoke smell.

His accosting of me have now, as of today spread to my children. He’s calling out to them ‘tell your lazy mother to sort her eyesore of a garden’ then loudly calls them ‘bunch of racist word’ they’re mixed race Chinese and Caucasian.

How should I handle this whilst keeping some dignity? I kind of want to be petty and leave the garden to grow wild. But also think I should just ignore to not further the issue.

Report the racist abuse of your children to police as a hate crime.

also report the harassment and don't engage with I'm furthe r

It's his own fault. If he lowered the price, a developer would still snap it up. It's not your fault the greedy bastard can't sell his smoky piss hole.

“Oh ard you inferring to help! How thoughtful - yes I would love it if you could tidy my garden whilst I am incapacitated “

Smokey piss hole 🤣🤣🤣

It’s on for 240k but the just renovated Percy condition house at the top of our round only went for 221k he needs to lower it significantly and just accept it’s not worth what he wants. He’s also turned down three council bungalows because he doesn’t like the areas he got offered. So he was removed from the housing register. He’s not helping himself.

I would reply with “well, who have you been blaming for the last four years then? Oh and, you’ve just ensured that no-one will ever buy your house because now you will have to declare a neighbour dispute.”

And then I would ring the estate agent and fill them in on the details. I would say “just to let you know, that mr twat has been reported to the police for racist abuse, so as you know, this needs to be declared to prospective buyers as a neighbour dispute.”

I’m anti- weed killer. It’s awful and you shouldn’t get your landlord to use it.

That said, an expedition into his garden with a bottle to spell out ‘racist twat’ across his lawn might not be wholly out of order in this case!

No but seriously, miffed at the state of the garden might be fine (and perhaps getting a gardening company booked would be worth it if a real problem). But what he’s saying and doing is awful and you should absolutely report it to the authorities.

Maybe Do Fuck Off Bob would be satisfying?.
Obviously only if he is called Bob...

Report him to the police and hold your phone up to record him every time you see him thereafter.

And I hope your leg is better soon!