no tolerance for tantrums from other people’s kids

[Tiredbut]

Currently sat at DCs activity which I actually look forward to of a weekend as it’s an hour of them getting taught a skill in a class whilst I can sit quietly with a drink and watch whilst catching up on admin/browsing for shopping. Generally quite quiet in here.

been here 45 mins listening to a (approx) 3 year old screaming at the top of their lungs whilst the mum either stands waiting for them to stop, shoving a dummy in their mouth, forcefully strapping them in a pram or letting them run riot around the room.

im ND and find the sound of SCREAMING kids overstimulating in general but aside from that the woman is pissing me off that she’s letting the child carry on like this for this amount of time while children are trying to learn and parents are having to listen to it. AIBU to think she should take the child outside and calm them down?

and before anybody asks, no I never let my children scream and tantrum and can count on one hand how many times that happened, if it did I took them away to not disturb others.

PMS’ing too but I’m actually fuming it’s so rude.

My DS loves a good tantrum. But I swear everyone in my neighbourhood has seen me pick him up under arm, and swiftly carry him away from whatever was happening. He gets 2 choices, calm your body down and walk with mam, or I will pick you up and remove you to calm down. No reason to disturb everyone else's day. YANBU.
Edit to add, I totally understand some parents are stuck in that situation and unable to take DC outside (if they have multiple children). But doesn't sound like the case in this situation. Could be wrong.

Im always grateful its not me, so yabu

Exactly!!! It’s just so so discourteous

It's just beyond rude. Kids screeching goes through me.

Tantrumming is a normal developmental stage, how do you propose people "don't allow it"?

People should take screaming dc out, yes, but tbh at a kids activity I expect a certain amount of tolerance for normal kid behaviour.

I’ll be the first to admit that I’m not a fan of kids, I don’t like being around them (other than my own of course). But I once took my daughter to a toddler gymnastics class and there was a kid there who didn’t stop screaming and crying the whole time they were there. Normally I’d be cursing them but on this occasion I just felt desperately sorry for the mother. You could just see it in her face that she was on the edge. I’ve tried to be more tolerant since.

You will feel a great deal calmer about the world in general once you recognise that the only behaviour you can ultimately dictate is your own. In this situation, you have the option of going outside yourself, approaching the other mother and asking her to take her child out, putting in your AirPods and turning up the music, or putting up with it. There’s no point wasting mental energy fulminating about what you think the other mother should do, but isn’t doing.

1 million percent this if only others were more like me and do what I do then the world would be a better place is ideal but ultimately pointless because the world isn't like that, unfortunately.
You can only do you.