To put this in my will? DC holiday

[Twoshoesnewshoes]

I’ve just been reading the other thread about wills, and it got me thinking.
we’re doing ours soon.
my three DC are all adult. If something unexpected happened, they would each get about £120k from our estate.
they are very close but don’t often get the opportunity to hang out together, usually this is at our home at Christmas, or on a larger family holiday.
im considering ring fencing eg £5k from the will for them to get a cottage or something for a holiday so they can spend time together a few times.
or is that annoying and controlling?

I think you are being really controlling. I just don’t like people who use their money to control things beyond their grave.
I have adult children and I get it that you want them to carry on seeing each other but this may even drive a wedge between them.

This ☝

This has the potential to cause no end of problems OP. Very controlling and, frankly, annoying.

If they’re inheriting £120k each, presumably money won’t be a barrier to them getting together in the future, and they’re adults and if they wanted to get together, they’d arrange it.

Really odd and controlling..they're adults, if they want a space to hang out together they can sort it themselves. It's almost insulting to put it in there, as if they can't take any responsibility for their relationship themselves.

I would say controlling but that is because the terms of DM's Will mean that DB's and I will be made to work together for an extended period.

We don't get on and never seek opportunities to be together.

DM fantasises that we are a close family. We aren't

Yup, it’s another vote for annoying and controlling. Why not book a holiday now while you are still alive and enjoy a holiday with them.

I have lots of holidays with them now, as I’ve said that is not the issue at all.
thanks for the ideas, I think I will put it in a letter of wishes.

Don’t be that person.

Exactly what I thought, it's going to be a script writers dream.

Beat me to it!