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Kissing your mum on the lips??

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Colalola · 14/06/2025 01:11

Is it me or is this f**king weird?? Saw my neighbour earlier, she’s mid thirties…kissing her mother on the lips. Cheek or a hug goodbye would do wouldn't it ? 😂

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ReadTheBlurb · 14/06/2025 01:30

I was raised in a lip kissing family. To be honest I don't find it hugely comfortable, but my mum does still kiss me on the lips now when saying bye (I'm almost 40). My preference would be cheeks though! But it was definitely the norm in my family, and my DH's family all lip-kiss their kids too.

Nothankyov · 14/06/2025 01:31

I don’t think it’s weird. I think it’s not very common in the UK (maybe) but very common in Mediterranean cultures.

steff13 · 14/06/2025 01:51

Different families do things differently. That doesn't make it weird.

BlueyNeedsToFuckOff · 14/06/2025 02:04

I think it’s weird. I associate lip kissing with romantic partners only.

VoltaireMittyDream · 14/06/2025 02:08

I grew up in a lip kissing family and totally hated it. Always thought it was weird and pressured. ‘Come and kiss yer granny!’ Bleurgh.

I kiss my DC on the top of the head (when they let me) and that’s it.

Anyoneforcricketandtennis · 14/06/2025 06:01

I didn't know adults actually did this . Ive never seen it.

I used to find it weird and uncomfortable when my family from " down south" visited and greeted us with cheek kissing. It was totally embarrassing and not something us matter of fact northerners ever did.

Ooodelally · 14/06/2025 06:09

It’s not something I’ve seen very often but yes, it does make me feel uncomfortable to see. I’m not a huge one for any physical contact though so maybe I’m the weird one…

Meadowfinch · 14/06/2025 06:15

I was raised in a family that don't kiss at all. The thought of kissing my dm on the lips makes me cringe. 😩

AmelieSummer25 · 14/06/2025 06:18

BlueyNeedsToFuckOff · 14/06/2025 02:04

I think it’s weird. I associate lip kissing with romantic partners only.

Me too.

i wouldn't stop a small child doing it, but I'd always kiss them on them on the cheek/ head etc.

i have a Great Aunt that does it, but I try to get in there first with a cheek! I adore her, donuts ok if she gets there first sometimes.

but yes, to me, lips are for romantic kissing!!

Helpmeplease2025 · 14/06/2025 06:48

Reminds me of Paul and his mum in the first Sam baby diaries. Yuck

arcticpandas · 14/06/2025 06:49

🤢

PersephoneParlormaid · 14/06/2025 06:50

I’ve been rewatching Last Tango in Halifax and they all lip kiss. I don’t like it.

UseOfWeapons · 14/06/2025 06:57

My family are all lip kissers. I don’t find it weird. It’s not romantic, FGS! We’re all big huggers and cuddlers too. We’re affectionate, and loving. Maybe it’s a cultural thing, but it’s never felt uncomfortable to me🤷🏻‍♀️

ProfessionalWhimsicalSkidaddler · 14/06/2025 08:10

Urgh I’m touching 40 and my mum does this. Fucking weird. I don’t remember her doing it when I was a kid either so I don’t know why or how it’s come about in the last 20 years. I do a subtle head turn every time 🤣

dontcomeatme · 14/06/2025 08:15

All my family are kissers and huggers!

Icepop79 · 14/06/2025 08:15

My partner comes from a lip-kissing family. I very definitely do not! Daughter does kiss us both on the lips. Son absolutely will not lip kiss. My partner used to ask him to (not forceful, never more than once) but stopped asking after a few times.

Sadmummy3 · 14/06/2025 08:19

I don't like lip kissing unless it's your partner. I didn't even do it when my kids were little. Plenty of kisses but not on the lips.
Now my older two are teenagers I'm lucky if I get a kiss at all.

PomeloOud · 14/06/2025 08:23

My mum used always to kiss us on the lips. I absolutely hated it and knocked it on the head once in my late teens. Bleurgh.

cariadlet · 14/06/2025 08:33

I only found out a few years ago that some families do this. I know in my head that it's just different families doing things differently but I have a visceral reaction that it's weird and creepy.

Lip kissing for romantic partners. Cheek kissing for family.

Girasoli · 14/06/2025 08:41

I used to lip kiss the DC when they were toddlers (and had no aim), now they get cheek and forehead kisses.

I find cheek kissing people in the UK a bit stressful...in Italy it's always two, but in the UK some people do one and some people do two and I always panic when I don't know what they are planning on 😁

ButterBites · 14/06/2025 08:43

BlueyNeedsToFuckOff · 14/06/2025 02:04

I think it’s weird. I associate lip kissing with romantic partners only.

Same here. DH occasionally kisses his mum on the lips and it makes me uncomfortable, though I’ve never said anything as I’m conscious it’s my own perception of kissing that’s tainting my view.

EleanorReally · 14/06/2025 08:45

i had a wonderful photo of me and ds kissing on the lips when he was a toddler, and my dm hated it!
it was so cute, i dont know where the photo is now Sad

Graters · 14/06/2025 08:47

Nope. Definitely romantic partners only. Cheek kisses fine for me between family and friends though.

Nopersbro · 14/06/2025 08:52

Normal in many cultures; I think the idea is that each person is equally kissing the other at the same time rather than one person kissing first and being kissed second and the other being kissed first and kissing second. If you don't get it maybe disregard it, if it's not doing you direct harm.

Changingplace · 14/06/2025 08:54

BlueyNeedsToFuckOff · 14/06/2025 02:04

I think it’s weird. I associate lip kissing with romantic partners only.

Absolutely this, I’d find it weird and uncomfortable.