Using 'We' when talking about yourself.

[Aquarius1234]

AIBU to do this in a fairly light hearted way?

Is it just going with the modern times.
I like to for whatever reason esp when telling a story.

Also AIBU to be slightly annoyed when the other person doesn't get it? 🙄

I've used we when talking to men in social situations to give the impression I have a partner at home to put said men off coming on to me.

No. Talking about yourself constantly is self-absorbed. Doing so while using what has always been known as 'the royal we' very much doesn't make it less self-absorbed!

Unfortunately it's going to come across as either pretentious or just ridiculous.

unless it's a joke between you and someone else that's turned into a long running thing that you both do.

If you randomly use it with everyone then ime they're most likely to think it's stupid and perhaps laugh about you behind your back, sadly.

This is not me being horrible to you. I'm just saying what I have observed about people's behaviour when they come across someone with a quirk. I'm not saying they're are right to behave like that, just that I have observed that's a common reaction.

Queen Victoria did it, and I assume other monarchs before he. It was called “the royal we”.

OP!!! People keep asking you for examples and you keep saying, it’s to be funny or self deprecating but without explaining what slrt
of thing you are saying!! You’ve given one example of “well we do try” which I don’t really understand, so maybe if you gave some more examples in context?

Thanks for sharing no examples 😂

Hmm, it's really archaic , we are not amused. I don't think it sounds self deprecating, the act of adding we. One would be better that we. But that's probably not self deprecating is it more tongue in cheek, oh that cake is fab Jane, well one tries ones best.
Language is fascinating.

Agree, op it's not the word I that's self absorbed it's the words around it! I think you are trying to solve a problem that doesn't exist. Are you a bit people pleaser ish, don't like being the centre of attention? I sniff a childhood where you were made to feel too much or someone else was always the centre of attention.

Aquarius1234 · Today 01:02

" Well we always try" about myself.

I don't understand this use of 'we' at all. Would make me think you maybe had a split personality and were hearing voices.

I can’t think of what you mean but sounds weird Af to we.

I used to talk about 'we' in the job context. I don't know why, maybe because I've always felt part of a team and when 'i' make decisions it feels like they are 'we' decisions.

I barely noticed I was doing it until -I once didn't get a job because the interviewer thought I'd never made any decisions for myself because I kept talking about 'we' in the interview!!! (I'm v pleased she was honest in giving me that feedback!)

Since then, I am v v conscious to make myself say 'I' when I mean 'I', and I only say 'we' when I truly mean that there were more than one of us making a decision/doing something..

You learn the hard way sometimes..

My son does this all the time , I get incredibly annoyed and confused by it

“we went to ….” - Who did you go with?
“we can come on Saturday” - but I only invited you ( he is single ! )

I thin it comes from using they / them all the time - because he is so progressive and doesn’t seem to like using sex pronouns .

I do love my son but not his views on some things .

The only person I can think of who does this is Taylor Swift. I think you might have to face OP that she can get away with things us mere mortals cannot.

Using "myself" grammatically incorrectly is worse.
My teeth itch and the person saying it instantly identifies themselves as an idiot
Which is, perhaps, handy to know

That's bonkers though. 'I' is not a sex-based pronoun!

I agree !

Why you need to say I, anymore than the average single person??

I'm single & live alone. I say I bought a new sofa, I'm putting the house in the market, I'm going to France, because there is no (longer) a WE doing those things.

what you're doing isn't self depreciating or anything other than plan weird!

Nope, not sex/pronouns based. He just needs to be told it's wrong & stupid.

Believe me ,,I do pull him up on it

I get where this could be used humourously but it sort of sounds pompous so the other person has to know that you're joking.

You need to find friends who have a similar sense of humor and only do it when with them!

Okay I don't really use it in that way.

But in the past I often used they about male friends. Dunno why. Probably didn't want to be questioned on the relationship status.
But then it's rude to say he or she. Can't win sometimes.
I use people's names to talk about them of course but im not someone to repeat peoples names and I don't like hearing my name said a lot.
Call me by your name..id rather that.. good film!!
But I am weird in the fact I don't use people's names until I've got to know them a little.
Or remember. Example anyone new at work. Or a relatives partner.

Does he say "they" when talking about who he went out with. So it comes across that it could be a few friends or one female or male.?
I find when I say "they" I don't have to go into any detail about who I've been out with. Doesn't always work as someone might ask for specifics but I like the casual ness of saying they.
I don't like it when someone asks me if I've gone somewhere alone. Perhaps me saying they gives the impression my so called friend/ s don't exist 🤔

Anyway it's all very fascinating.

No he says they/we when he means me/him.
why is saying he or she rude . Have you drunk too much of the gender kool-ade?

I mean when you say he or she and someone goes "who's she "?
Yeh I say they when talking about him and would also if talking about she.
What's the point of using their names all the time esp when the person your talking to doesn't know them.