Just this, really. Any fathers out there that have high expectations for father's day?! How serious should I take this day, because my partner is constantly asking what have I planned for him this Sunday!
For context, I really don't pay much attention to mother's Day. Last one, we actually attended a kids birthday party with our daughter and I got some flowers and a card in the morning from him. Absolutely fine with that. My partner also went to see his mum in that morning. That's what usually I can expect for mums day, and my partner will definitely make a nice home lunch for us at home. Happy with that.
Last year he started this same conversation "what have you planned for me"? I planned the same as he does for me. Nice breakfast, a bottle of his favourite drink, chocolats a card and hopefully doing something as a family outdoors, something of his choice. Kayaking, a nice walk, drink at a pub... A family thing. Obviously leaving some space in the day so he could see his dad. Well.. he ended up spending the whole day with his dad because I "didn't plan" anything for him. I thought that maybe it was a communication problem between us, as maybe I should have said during that morning breakfast that I would like to get us out of the house and doing something that he loves like kayaking or cycling. Either way, it was too late as he had arranged lunch at his parents already! I was so angry and disappointed that I didn't go, he took our daughter saying he would be there just a couple of hours. This year I gathered a few little presents for him, as our daughter is more aware of this day we tried to make it a bit more special. But as he started asking "what have I planned?" and silently infuriating me inside, I didn't give much away. This evening he just said that he accepted his dad's invitation to go around his parents for lunch Sunday. Wtf?! I guess the minimum he could have done was, before answering his dad, letting me know about it! It just seems like such a childish and selfish decision and attitude! This is a nearly 40 year old man?! Father's day is every day since we became parents! Is this normal? Btw, we have a good relationship with his parents, we don't miss birthdays or other events. But the way I think, he is now a father as well and it should come from him wanting to spend the day with us, at least giving me a clue of his expectations so I could make it more appealing spending the day with us that going for lunch at his parents! Tomorrow I am out all afternoon with our daughter, can't he go around his parents rather than doing it Sunday?! I just don't get it!