I am trying to determine the consensus on this and whether I am going mad.
I have been good work friends with a colleague for years. He is fantastic, knowledgeable, and helpful at work, but I am uncertain what his intentions are. For years, he's been way too helpful, going out of his way to speak highly of me at work and praise me. We work in an environment where you don't do, as it’s all very competitive. Again, for years, he was nudging me to join his department—and I finally did a few months back, and now we are peers.
He never made any moves, but over the years, he made some borderline comments—again, all very much potentially innocent but equally not. The other day, he came to work despite being very unwell, and when I asked why you were coming in on earth, he said, “Have a coffee with you.” Since becoming peers, he has dialled up, coming to my desk, and texting about work outside hours (work stuff). Then, the other day, he said he had a massive row with his wife.
Look, could all of this be seen as friendly?