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AIBU to want to move?

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Hallowbeflashed · 12/06/2025 22:33

I could use an outside perspective to see if I’m being unreasonable.

In my opinion we’ve outgrown our current home (it’s a 2 up 2 down terrace with basement, downstairs bathroom and no front garden or parking). We’re now a family of 3 plus dog and cat - larger than when we bought it 6 years ago. I’ve brought this up with my partner a few times, but they seem totally unbothered by it.

They have their own office for their business in the basement and don’t necessarily spend as much time as me in the main portion of the house.

Every time I try to explain this they say it’s impossible to move and point to the significant upgrade we would need to have because of their office. I agree but in 12 months we won’t have the same childcare costs we currently have.

My suggestion is to put it on the market, gather interest and attempt to buy something that meets our new needs - although these don’t often come on the market so we could be waiting a while.

I’m trying really hard not to be pushy or make it a fight but it’s relentless mess due to the sheer volume of stuff we’ve accumulated.

Has anyone dealt with something like this? Should I be pointing out every inconvenience because of the size of our house and how much it impacts me more than them?

Would love any advice or even just a sanity check. AIBU about wanting to move? How would you approach this.

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TheSilentSister · 12/06/2025 23:27

It suits your needs now but I can see how it's limited. The lack of outdoor space with children is a bit sad. Whether or not you intend on expanding your family, sounds like you've outgrown this space.
There's nothing to stop you from getting an agent in to get a valuation, you don't have to take it up. Use it to see what else you could get. Then present that to your OH for debate.

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