Ready to call it a day with work

[Sweetpea59]

I am lucky enough to be able to take early retirement in a few weeks.
I waw meant to finish a few months back but agreed to stay on a bit to help out. I have really had enough of being spoken to like I'm a dog every other day. This is not what I stayed on for. It's just such a depressing place to be now too, and it never used to be.
Shall I just sit it out for a few more weeks, or just ring up Monday morning, say I'm not coming in again. I don't want to leave on a bad note as I may decide to go part time one day so I might need a reference. Going off sick is so obvious too. Every night I'm feeling depressed at the thought of going into work the next day!

Sit it out for a few weeks. If you want to keep your powder dry, it’s the only way. If you just don’t turn up on Monday, then there’s no chance of a decent reference. The end is in sight, OP - don’t fall at the last hurdle!

@sesquipedalian thank you, you're right if course. I just need people to tell me to keep my cool this close to the end. Freedom is in sight!

If you only stayed on to help them out and they're treating you badly I would leave.
If you're retiring what would you need a reference for anyway?

@Bridport I'm taking early retirement; but you never know what will happen in the future. I might want to go somewhere else part time, or what if my dh was ill & needed me to try & find another job? Hopefully, I'll never need to find another job, but you just never know. I'm close to calling it a day though...

Can you say you will just work from home from now on, so they can get used to you not actually being there you will be giving support as needed by phone and would come in in an emergency.

When I retired I ended up leaving early because I had got to the stage you have with dreading it and feeling depressed the night before. When I look back my only regret is that I didn't leave earlier - all those wasted nights feeling miserable.

I don't see how it can reflect badly on you if you only agreed to stay to help out.

Could you speak to someone about how you're being treated and say if it continues you'll need to leave immediately?

I thought references were pretty much just confirmations of your employment now? At least according to my friends who work in HR, they’ve told me that is all they pretty much do anymore which is frustrating sometimes when they know someone was let go for poor performance but they cannot reference it. But it might just be the couple of quite specific industries I’ve worked in/close to.

YANBU.

Could you have a 'family emergency' and you need to go to whoever and help them out?
References quite often just confirm you worked at a place between certain dates and nothing more. Wonder if you could find out if that is the case at your work. If so, quit as soon as you do!

Yes, or you can just print off your work history from your Gov Gateway, if any future employers require proof, if a ref isn't available

Given what other posters have said about references, I'd quit asap!

Good idea.

@Sweetpea59 re the concern about references, that’s my understanding also. It’s not usual at all these days for a new job to request a personal reference. It’s literally a readout to confirm you worked at the place and length of time you purport to on your CV. So please don’t worry about that! Just tell them you want to bring forward your retirement for personal reasons and that’s that! Good luck!

Is the person that asked you to stay on the same person that is being rude to you? I would be making it very clear that agreeing to stay on as a favour and to make life easier for them does not include being spoken to like that and if it continues you will have no option than to bring forward your retirement as originally planned.