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Is our town a shithole..

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FroggletTowers · 12/06/2025 13:53

Or is this happening anywhere else?

I have been discussing this with friends, family and colleagues recently so won't name our town for privacy reasons, but it is a regular, large town in England, UK.
Nothing particularly special or awful about it, previously.

Since the pandemic, the entire vibe has changed. Almost unrecognisable.
Yes, we have some heavy shop closures like many towns, but the council kept it looking decent as much as it could. Some nice buildings and nature areas, etc.

What stands out most, apart from the general vandalism and dog shit is the weird accumulation of male groups hanging around boozing in public.

So far they have taken over the local park, river walks and nature reserves. They often cluster beneath bridges or across paths where people like to run, cycle walk dogs or take children, making it less safe and filling these areas with waste. Off road bikes have ruined the nature reserves, so less people visit Sad

Sadly the authorities don't seem to be doing much about it, it is as if these people don't have to abide by laws that the rest of us have to. Some buildings adjacent to these areas have windows put through on a regular basis, even in what you'd call 'nice' areas.
Many of them cluster at river bridges and block the path for others, most are very drunk or out of generally.
It isn't unusual to see a large man passed out across the pathway, blocking anyone getting past. If you had a pram or bike it would be really uncomfortable to have to rouse a large drunk at 2pm in the afternoon. Most are local men, with a growing amount of middle eastern men. The vast majority of them are unstable.

We see less women out cycling, walking or exercising now, and this encompasses both MC and WC areas. These people seem to have just multiplied and spread across the entire borough and have taken over all public space.
We live in a decent area that is now seeming to go downhill.
It isn't unusual to see day drinkers sat alone, surrounded by cans on a quiet residential street. And they won't move to let you past.

It's really depressing.

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Slatterndisgrace · 17/06/2025 11:26

Crikeyalmighty · 17/06/2025 11:23

I’ve reported @Slatterndisgrace for personal attacks on people - calling people who disagree twats or bone idol idiots who disagree with you is not at all acceptable @Slatterndisgrace - may I suggest you get back to your physical labour and drooling over Farage ( not much sign of physical labour there- just grabbing public money) - you clearly need some physical labour to work off your aggression

Never voted farage in my life.

Please prove where I said that.

Slatterndisgrace · 17/06/2025 11:27

Crikeyalmighty · 17/06/2025 11:23

I’ve reported @Slatterndisgrace for personal attacks on people - calling people who disagree twats or bone idol idiots who disagree with you is not at all acceptable @Slatterndisgrace - may I suggest you get back to your physical labour and drooling over Farage ( not much sign of physical labour there- just grabbing public money) - you clearly need some physical labour to work off your aggression

Nothing wrong with physical labour. Are you suggesting there is??

Slatterndisgrace · 17/06/2025 11:29

Crikeyalmighty · 17/06/2025 11:23

I’ve reported @Slatterndisgrace for personal attacks on people - calling people who disagree twats or bone idol idiots who disagree with you is not at all acceptable @Slatterndisgrace - may I suggest you get back to your physical labour and drooling over Farage ( not much sign of physical labour there- just grabbing public money) - you clearly need some physical labour to work off your aggression

You’re a coward, simple.

Pistachioitaliano · 17/06/2025 11:29

I am not saying that.

I am saying in 2025 with contraception we can stop this cycle repeating.

alikelylass · 17/06/2025 11:30

Sabire9 · 17/06/2025 10:51

@alikelylass

  1. Can you link to the research evidence you've seen setting out what percentage of asylum seekers speak no English at all. A 2021 report by the Migration Observatory pointed to 9 out of 10 asylum seekers speaking English 'well' or 'adequately' and only 1.4% not being able to speak English at all.
  2. Manual workers don't always need to have good English - construction work, some kitchen jobs, some delivery work, landscaping, some agricultural work, cleaning. My neice's girlfriend spoke almost no English for the first year she was in the UK, but made a decent living doing office cleaning.

From Breaking Barriers -
"84% of asylum seekers said that they did not have sufficient English language ability to get a job. Support with these issues is very limited – in some places waiting lists for English classes are two years long, and the majority of those in classes say that the classes they are doing are not sufficient to learn the language.

As a result, refugees in the UK are 4 times more likely to be unemployed than people born here, and on average earn about half the amount per week that UK nationals do. This is despite high levels of qualifications and skills. "

And even for manual work workers they need to be able to understand English to follow instructions.

Slatterndisgrace · 17/06/2025 11:31

It’s ok for posters to accuse other posters of racism, scroungers, scum. Fight back and call those posters back and you get reported.

cowards.

Slatterndisgrace · 17/06/2025 11:32

Physical work.

That’s what you need.

bipbopdo · 17/06/2025 11:32

I do think you should maybe put the phone down and go outside for a bit @Slatterndisgrace. You seem very angry.

bipbopdo · 17/06/2025 11:34

Pistachioitaliano · 17/06/2025 11:29

I am not saying that.

I am saying in 2025 with contraception we can stop this cycle repeating.

But what happens if a family falls on hard times? You can’t just blink kids out of existence because you’ve lost your job or are seriously ill

Slatterndisgrace · 17/06/2025 11:34

bipbopdo · 17/06/2025 11:32

I do think you should maybe put the phone down and go outside for a bit @Slatterndisgrace. You seem very angry.

And here is another one of the crew.

I’v been accused of all kinds of things.

Yet one of your cowards go running to the mods.

Pathetic.

I suggested you all do some physical labour. Shocking, I know.

Slatterndisgrace · 17/06/2025 11:38

Crikeyalmighty · 17/06/2025 11:23

I’ve reported @Slatterndisgrace for personal attacks on people - calling people who disagree twats or bone idol idiots who disagree with you is not at all acceptable @Slatterndisgrace - may I suggest you get back to your physical labour and drooling over Farage ( not much sign of physical labour there- just grabbing public money) - you clearly need some physical labour to work off your aggression

See, this poster has absolutely no legitimate reason to believe I ever supported farage, but they said it anyway. Do you’d see how this crap works?

I have never voted farage.

lol.

Sabire9 · 17/06/2025 11:38

@alikelylass

So are you making a case for supporting asylum seekers and refugees with language learning to facilitate their employment, and maybe also acknowledge that hatred of asylum seekers and racism might have some contribution to this group having more difficulty with obtaining employment even once they have permission to work?

Or are you using these statistics to argue that we should stop offering asylum to anyone?

FrankensteinsMonster · 17/06/2025 11:38

FroggletTowers · 12/06/2025 14:06

Ah, someone noticed I mentioned Middle Eastern men.
How predictable.
Makes a change from being called woke, I suppose. Enough of that rubbish please.

I am interested in why so many men alone, never with women, seemingly unemployed or at least in a desperate mess are filling up public space with boozing here. No one seems to be either dealing with it or assisting them.
I have no idea why it has grown so suddenly since covid.

Many of these groups or lone men unemployed and drinking through the day are 'refugees' that the government have placed in hotels or other accommodation up and down the country. Thats why this behaviour has seemingly happened all of a sudden. Its become endemic across swathes of cities, towns and villages where 'migrant hotels' have been implemented. A corresponding uptick in harassment, assault and anti-social behaviour is common.

Sabire9 · 17/06/2025 11:40

@Slatterndisgrace

I'm still really confused about why you keep angrily insisting that people take up manual jobs.

Do you think that if I was still working in hospitality scraping shit out of customer toilets I'd hate and resent immigrants as much as you obviously do?

Can you explain the mechanism for that?

Pistachioitaliano · 17/06/2025 11:42

bipbopdo · 17/06/2025 11:34

But what happens if a family falls on hard times? You can’t just blink kids out of existence because you’ve lost your job or are seriously ill

Only having children when you are in a secure position will not stop the possibility of hard times but it will certainly mitigate the situation.

Too many are having children in a dire set up!!! They didn't have them when life was wonderful and then it went spectacularly wrong.

Slatterndisgrace · 17/06/2025 11:43

Sabire9 · 17/06/2025 11:40

@Slatterndisgrace

I'm still really confused about why you keep angrily insisting that people take up manual jobs.

Do you think that if I was still working in hospitality scraping shit out of customer toilets I'd hate and resent immigrants as much as you obviously do?

Can you explain the mechanism for that?

I realise the idea is an anathema to you but it would really help you find a soul.

EasternStandard · 17/06/2025 11:44

Slatterndisgrace · 17/06/2025 11:38

See, this poster has absolutely no legitimate reason to believe I ever supported farage, but they said it anyway. Do you’d see how this crap works?

I have never voted farage.

lol.

@Slatterndisgracedon’t worry about it. It’s to rile you up, just ignore.

Slatterndisgrace · 17/06/2025 11:48

Sabire9 · 17/06/2025 11:40

@Slatterndisgrace

I'm still really confused about why you keep angrily insisting that people take up manual jobs.

Do you think that if I was still working in hospitality scraping shit out of customer toilets I'd hate and resent immigrants as much as you obviously do?

Can you explain the mechanism for that?

You see, that’s all you’ve got . Calling me a racist!

All I’m saying is get yourself some physical labour, get that nonsense out of your system and be a better human being. Find a soul (I assume there’s one hanging around and you might get lucky).

But, you just can’t handle it.

It’s hilarious.

Sabire9 · 17/06/2025 11:49

FrankensteinsMonster · 17/06/2025 11:38

Many of these groups or lone men unemployed and drinking through the day are 'refugees' that the government have placed in hotels or other accommodation up and down the country. Thats why this behaviour has seemingly happened all of a sudden. Its become endemic across swathes of cities, towns and villages where 'migrant hotels' have been implemented. A corresponding uptick in harassment, assault and anti-social behaviour is common.

Are they refugees or 'refugees'?

You appreciate that the immigrants that people spend most energy demonising - Syrians, Iranians, Somalians, Indians, who make up the majority of asylum seeker numbers, are Muslims, most of whom don't drink alcohol?

Street drinking is a problem wherever it happens and always has been. Police need to address it.

Slatterndisgrace · 17/06/2025 11:49

EasternStandard · 17/06/2025 11:44

@Slatterndisgracedon’t worry about it. It’s to rile you up, just ignore.

Thanks EasternStandard

Yes, you’re right.

I allowed myself to get sucked in.

alikelylass · 17/06/2025 12:01

Sabire9 · 17/06/2025 11:38

@alikelylass

So are you making a case for supporting asylum seekers and refugees with language learning to facilitate their employment, and maybe also acknowledge that hatred of asylum seekers and racism might have some contribution to this group having more difficulty with obtaining employment even once they have permission to work?

Or are you using these statistics to argue that we should stop offering asylum to anyone?

I'm not making a case for anything.

I was asked for statistics about asylum seekers and their lack of English literacy, and I provided those statistics.

Crikeyalmighty · 17/06/2025 12:04

@EasternStandard I took you for having higher standards than being supportive to someone going round calling people total twats and bone idle wasters etc - I may not agree with you politically but am suprised you think that posters language and tone was ok

Sabire9 · 17/06/2025 12:10

@Slatterndisgrace

Are you drunk? This was you being abusive to someone who picked you up on a dickish comment about a homeless person's sleeping arrangements.

"Oh piss off. If you’re needing somewhere to make a bed find a better place than an underpass. What’s going to happen, is the person going to claim it as their own bedroom eventually? A public underpass. Don’t come the bleeding heart with me, you don’t know me."

EasternStandard · 17/06/2025 12:10

Crikeyalmighty · 17/06/2025 12:04

@EasternStandard I took you for having higher standards than being supportive to someone going round calling people total twats and bone idle wasters etc - I may not agree with you politically but am suprised you think that posters language and tone was ok

I think accusing posters of drooling over a politician will rile them up.

It could be aimed at anyone, ie Starmer too and is rarely helpful.

Slatterndisgrace · 17/06/2025 12:11

Sabire9 · 17/06/2025 12:10

@Slatterndisgrace

Are you drunk? This was you being abusive to someone who picked you up on a dickish comment about a homeless person's sleeping arrangements.

"Oh piss off. If you’re needing somewhere to make a bed find a better place than an underpass. What’s going to happen, is the person going to claim it as their own bedroom eventually? A public underpass. Don’t come the bleeding heart with me, you don’t know me."

Good luck with your job.