Selfish to go on holiday alone

[Moonie542]

I have a big birthday next year where I will be well and truly middle aged and I really want to go on a fly drive and ranch stay holiday where you ride out each day. It’s been on my bucket list for years. It is a lot of money to go but it’s a once in a life time experience. My husband and two teenage kids aren’t that bothered about coming. Aibu thinking about going on my own? I have never done anything like that before but the past 7 years have been horrendous with illnesses and death of family members and I think life is too short to miss out on things. I wouldn’t be bankrupting the family to go as I have my own savings.
I feel bad not taking the kids but I would also take them on a holiday which they would enjoy but not nowhere near as expensive.
Also if anyone has done a ranch holiday and has any advice, or reviews of that kind of holiday that would be good too.

If your DH is fine with it, just go. Your life can't always revolve around everyone else.

I've done the travel bucket list items that I always wanted to do, and the memories & feeling of achievement - even if it turned out not as amazing as I expected - beat the regret every time. The guilt of going is fleeting. It uilt disappears as the plane taxis down the runway!

It isn't selfish at all. It isn't like they're desperate to go and you've chosen to go alone. I can't advise with regards to ranth holidays but it does sound fab. Enjoy!

You will have a far better time if you're not having to fuss about making sure everyone else is happy. Go and enjoy it I say!

What a fabulous idea! I say organise something nice with the family — or better yet, get DH to take the reins — and then plan something really special just for you. I’m sure they’ll be relieved (and probably excited) to see you doing something that’s just for you for once. You absolutely deserve it.

Go for it, you only regret will be you worried about it. I’m taking myself off on a yoga retreat soon and can’t wait.

You should go. Give yourself this gift. Life is short and you deserve to make yourself happy.

Just do it, 😍 grab it wirh both hands. Have the most fantastic tme

Totally fine. I go on holiday alone nearly every year. I’m going next week for 4 days in fact. I love Dh and my dc, but we don’t need to do everything together.

It would only be selfish if you were using all the family holiday budget for your own trips. Otherwise, holidaying without your partner or family sometimes is perfectly normal and healthy.

You’ll have a great time! How much of a flight are you considering? I’ve done ranch stays in both US national parks and in southern Spain - I loved the former, but the latter was a different experience and felt less contrived in many ways (though it will depend on the ranch.)

If they are not arsed about going then its highly likely that your either

1 don't go and miss out
2 force them to go and they ruin it for you

Go.

Not selfish - would highly recommend Tanque Verde ranch in Tucson, AZ we just did 5 days and it was honestly the best place i have ever been.

Not at all selfish. I like to go away by myself too, just for a couple of nights but to a very expensive spa hotel. My DH is pleased for me to do it as he knows I enjoy it. Have a great time at the ranch!

Sounds like a great idea.

After years of being ruled by school holidays, I finally retired and was looking forward to cheaper holidays at less busy times. Then bloody OH goes and gets a new job with fixed holidays - all coinciding with school holidays.

I feel like going off by myself but don't know if I'm confident enough to do it.