Would this bother you?

[Tiredtweenmum]

I think maybe I’m being precious. I’m not sure.
DH does most of the school runs, swimming lessons etc so meets other parents before I do. Today he introduced me to another Mum as “(DS’ name)’s Mum” rather than “my wife”. I think this is odd. He doesn’t think it is. What do you think?
YABU Get a grip that’s fine.
YANBU That’s weird!

Non issue.

No I don't think it's weird at all.

Yup non issue, unless you think he’s been shagging her in the changing rooms during lesson time.

For me I would always introduce DH as my husband. I thought him saying our son’s mum implied we are not together 🤷🏻‍♀️

Of course it's not weird. The other person will be familiar with the child so it makes sense to introduce you as their mum. Presumably he said your name as well?

At school it's the norm to be known Johnny's mum (or dad). As he does the school runs etc he has fallen into school gate speak.

I thought him saying our son’s mum implied we are not together

I don't think many people would infer that - if he said 'my wife' they could equally infer you're the step-mum.

Yes but introducing him as your husband, isn't an indication that he's the child's father.

It sounds as though he was just clarifying.

This.

You could be his wife but not the child’s mum.

😆 😱

It's not really that weird...when my DC were at primary school it was an age before any parents was referred to by their own name..

I'd imagine there's loads of people, like myself that have grown up being introduced to people as so and so's DD, or so and so's Dsis, so and so's DM, so and so's DW....we've a couple in our street that were referred to as 'freds' mum/dad for a while....Fred being a dog.

We do now know and refer to them by their names..

It’s a nonissue.

Wouldn’t bother me.

Who cares wether people think you’re together or separated? Stop caring about how other people see you. Life’s too fucking short.

That's a stretch and then some...

I know nobody else does so far, but I agree with you, and so does my husband (somehow he was talking about this the other day).

I think saying “this is X’s Mum” makes it sound like you are divorced or never properly together even. I f I had been talking to an adult and they then met my husband I would definitely say “this is my husband” not introduce him as my child’s Dad.

I never know which is best. If I say 'my husband' it might sound like he isn't DS's Dad but if I say 'DS's Dad' it sounds like we aren't together. I've never worked it out and my oldest is 18!

No, I don’t think it’s weird. I’d probably do the same introducing my DH. Or a mixture. I wouldn’t sweat it OP.

Perfectly normal in a child-centric setting like this. You were there as your DC's mum, not DH's wife.

What's going on that you're picking over your DH's language with the most uncharitable lens possible? This is the type of thing people do when they're unhappy in a relationship.

YABU

Its normal to say Xs mum or dad.
You have nothing to be jealous over.

If someone said this is my DH/DW I would assume they’re not the child’s biological parent.

If he introduced you as his wife I would likely think you were step mum, as most people will do the whole Jake’s Mum/Dad.

Yeah this.

Especially now when step parents are more common, “my wife” doesn’t always mean the mum.

No this wouldn't bother me, I think it's entirely normal!