Looking up people on Facebook - people who I've had no interaction with for years or I met one and I'm curious about

[Muckandmess]

As the title says really.
As an example- I've been looking up someone who chatted me up once. We chatted a few times thereafter but that was it. I'm happily married now. He's also married too but I'm so curious about his life as I know he's very well off and has a v different life style to me.
Looking up someone I hung around with at school. She dropped me as a friend at school. That was 30 years ago. I'm not face book friends with her but I'm curious about her life. We spent many years together as friends in our teens.
This is all a waste of my time. Why do I do this ??it's pointless.

Why does anyone do it? You’ll be very far from being the only one. Because as human beings we’re curious about other human beings. Because we’re curious about other lives we might have led if we’d made different choices or things had worked out differently.

It’s only a problem if it’s making you unhappy or preventing you from being productive/present in your real life. I don’t think a few minutes of mildly curious browsing matters.

I do it too just out of curiosity - it's not just you!

But they will see that you are doing that.

You will now appear on their list of people they might know so dont be shocked to get a friend request

I have mutual friends with these people, so appearing on their people you may know list is not an issue

None of these people will be Facebook stalking me or even giving me a second of a thought. Why would they. I feel very sad ... But still do it

A friend once got curious about someone she fancied and searched for them on Facebook. However, she typed their name in the status bar rather than the search bar.

The story about the poster who stalked her now married ex on FB and managed to tag herself as his baby in the fam profile pic gave me the absolute fear. 😨

If I look at anyone’s FB page these days, I tend to block them straight after.

This is hilarious 😂😂😂

yeah, they will. And/or someone you’re not giving a second thought to will.

You’d be surprised! It’s very very normal behaviour and I bet people are snooping on your social media, as well. You’re not sad - or, at least, no sadder than anyone else.

I’ve also done this

It baffles me how people can chose come off fbook and delete their account. I would love to do that but I would have massive FOMO.

But what is it you’re potentially missing?

If people don’t want you seeing things about their life then they shouldn’t put it on the internet. Just remember when you are looking at how well they’re doing this is the view they want to show the world, not the real picture

@SecondWoman any updates from anyone I have ever known. That is life updates and not the everyday stuff. I see people I went to school with and how they're on a £££ holiday drinking champers, type of thing, and I'm like OMG how did you afford that. I think it's seeing how well people I went to school with have done .. or not have done .. where they ended up in life. I don't post on fbook myself. I wish none of this bothered me I am baffled how someone could not be on any social media