Sibling mad at me

[RoseHiker]

My sibling is mad at me for not picking their partner to be a God parent to my baby.
We used to be very close but they seem very hurt by this and our relationship is no longer the same.
I picked my friend to be the God parent who I am very close with.

They ignored my calls for weeks and told family members why they are mad at me and were speaking bad about me during my most vulnerable time( postpartum)

My OH and friends tell me I did nothing wrong.

I am very hurt and find myself crying about how our relationship is so damaged over something so minor.

Their partner is still the exact same towards me and our relationship hasn't suffered.

I think your sibling is being very unfair.It's your choice who is your child's God parent.

But, just for future, reference you can have as many as you like, male or female. Both my kids have five God parents.

How long ago was the Christening/Baptism/Dedication?

It wouldn't be the norm for us to have more than two.

It was last week

Is your siblings partner religious? If not the argument is dead before it has even begun.
I didn't choose any family to be godparents to my kids. Family already have a role in the child's life. Godparents are there as spiritual guides if the child needs it later in life (not that anyone pays attention to that nowadays).

No not religious. I am not sure they even believe in God...

Life’s too short - if they can’t even address with you why they’ve decided to completely drop you and ignore you then I wouldn’t let them take any of your headspace up.
Let them come to you whenever they’re ready to speak and explain themselves.
Keep yourself around people who care about you and love you, you need that !

They did open up to me at celebrations as to why they are "off" with me the last while
I just have a pain like I am hurt since in my chest.

Then they aren't appropriate to be a God patent anyway

When my daughter was baptised, our chosen godparents had to have done confirmation, never been divorced, and if they were married, they had to have been married in a church, not a registry office.
I don't know if the same applies in your church, but in a lot of cases not just anyone can be godparents.

They are literally an Aunt/Uncle to the child in their own right...why does sibling need more?? I hate hate hate when people make it about them with someone's else's child or wedding etc...

What religion we had 3 each totally not the norm here but absolutely permitted. Took a lot of heat off us back in the day.

Your sibling is being a dick. Is it your sister?

Don’t let their entitled behaviour make you feel guilty.

It’s done now but god parents aren’t what they used to be that partner might split up from your sibling then what? Just explain your friend was your choice and you shouldn’t be falling out over something that you disagree on and if you were choosing a guardian then that might be different let’s face it not everyone takes this role serious.

An old friend of mine asked me to be a godmother to her DS, but I couldn't because I hadn't been Christened. As it turned out, although we have kept in touch and see each other regularly, I haven't seen her DS since he was very young. He is 36 now!

How ridiculous! Sorry you are having to deal with this OP! 💐💐🩷🩷

Thanks everyone for the replies. Made me feel better.

I just have enough of people as other people tried to ruin our wedding also 🙃 🙄

I come to the realisation people are all for themselves and I need to be more firm going forward 🙏

One of my godparents was a random nephew or possibly second cousin of my father's.

I'm 46 now and I have a vague memory of him being at my sixth birthday party, but apart from that, nada.I couldn't even tell you if he was alive or dead, to be honest.

Unless you are very religious and take the spiritual guidance element seriously, it means nothing, really, and is just a bit of a woolly courtesy title in a lot of instances.