To start painting 10yr olds bedroom walls at 8pm at night

[Onetwothreebadknee]

Just that, she goes to bed at 8.30-8.45 and he says I’m being unreasonable as I don’t want her sleeping with wet paint fumes!

Yes YABU - wet paint smells and the paint fumes won't be doing her any good. I wouldn't want to sleep in a room that had just been painted. Can you do it early in the morning instead so it dries during the day when she's at school?

He was supposed to be home early to start it and only got in at 8pm (no phone call or anything) now I’m the bad one for not letting him start it

I think I voted wrongly. Whoever is trying to do the painting is being unreasonable.

Painting the bedroom half hour before your child goes to bed is only okay of she's not going to be sleeping in the room with wet paint.
Completely unreasonable otherwise.

YANBU OP. It’s too late to be painting

Agree with you, OP. Sleeping in a freshly painted room is silly. Plus, he’s given himself 30-45 mins to do it before she goes to bed - nowhere near enough time.

There’s no way I would agree to that, how much will actually get none before her bed time anyway and the fumes are not good. Is there a different room she could sleep in for a night or two

If he’s desperate to start painting can she not bed down in the living room, or your bedroom, for the night?

Thank you I don’t want it painted now - he thinks it’s okay!! Plus she has asthma

Suggest that DD sleeps in your room tonight and he can go paint the sleep in her bed. If the fumes are no problem, he won’t mind.

Can you dump her mattress on your floor for the night? And then he can paint the walls in her room.

But obviously, as everyone else says, you can't start painting 30 minutes before a kid goes in there to sleep!

You need to clarify the voting labels as it’s confusing…

Why are men such idiots? 🙄

I’m confused about which option to vote for - is it you or him who wants to start painting? I read it as you don’t want to, so my answer is he’s being unreasonable, you are not? But not sure if that’s right. Whoever wants to start painting is being unreasonable! Unless possibly it’s very low VOC paint then start tomorrow morning and keep the windows open to ventilate the space.

Seriously?

It’s just another example of him twisting stuff again to be my fault and telling our DD that it’s my fault her room isn’t done. Thing is he does make me question myself as he turns it all around. I was sure I was right this time

Sorry I don’t know how to edit

Please don’t paint a room if anyone’s sleeping or using it before it properly dries- ie 24 hours. Even low VOC paint will be giving off chemicals throughout drying.

I think I may have voted wrong but I think it is unreasonable to start painting at 8pm and expect the child to sleep in the room

Daughter in your room on the mattress. Let him get on with it.

Is this really super quick drying paint or something? Don't most people decamp to another room for a day or two while their bedrooms are being painted?

No, of course you shouldn’t start painting a child’s room 30minutes before they are going to sleep in it.
That said, if he can paint a room in 30 minutes then can you send him round to ours? He’d have the house done in less than a day and he’s probably missing out on an extraordinary career as a very in demand decorator. I can barely get all the stuff out and the paint ready in 30 mins. He’s a decorating master!