Hi, I am shortly due to give birth to a little girl. For context I am lucky and have a loving and supportive husband. However, the men in my life from a young age have not been great, my own dad barely saw me and whilst we are in some contact it is a very distant relationship and my mum split up with my long term stepdad when I was in my late 20's and my relationship with him has also weakened since then. My mum began a new relationship with a man shortly after the split with my stepdad and they have now been together around 6 years. However, the first few years I barely saw him and met him once or twice as he lived away. He now lives closer but we have never really got to know each other properly apart from on a polite superficial basis. He is not my sort of person but seems on the whole harmless I think! He has children and a grandchild of his own but he has been pushing me and my husband to have children ever since he moved closer which I always felt uncomfortable with and there have been multiple occasions where I have felt uncomfortable with how he words things. He is quite opinionated and abrupt. For example, he has been referring to my pregnancy bump as something he has some heavy investment or ownership over. For example, saying things such as 'look after my bump' when I leave their house from visiting which I hate. I have not brought up anything to date as have felt maybe I am over reacting as I just can't get on board with his personality. However, the closer the due date gets the more I am wondering how I should approach the situation as I obviously want my mum involved in my baby's life and I appreciate by proxy her partner will be involved but the level of involvement and for example being called 'grandad' all makes me feel uncomfortable but I am not sure how to navigate it. I think my overall mistrust of men in my life is adding to this. I have never posted before but I don't know anyone whose parents are not in a relationship with their own dad or a long term partner to talk to in real life and I wonder if anyone here has been in a similar situation or can offer some advice?