When I was a teen my mum called me selfish for liking my own company.
This turned me into a people pleaser with devastating consequences - serious, traumatic bullying etc.
When the bullies got me into serious trouble my mum said I was ‘easily led’. But I’d only become that way because I was terrified of the label ‘selfish’.
AIBU to think that ‘easily led’ is the opposite of ‘selfish?’
The former suggests you ‘go along’ with people too much and don’t show appropriate judgement. The latter suggests you don’t ’go along’ with people enough, iyswim.