okay for example,
DH said he'd pick me up from airport with dd who is 11 months..(I said not to because it would be too long a car journey for her..but he insisted). I arrive and they are not there, I phone his mobile, no answer leave a meesage, then call twice again every 10 min. no answer. I'm starting to think there is something up, blame myself for not bringing other phone numbers of neighbor..etc. I'm waiting 1 hour and 30 minutes at the airport and then there they are. Of course my face is like a thunder when I see him and dd as I'm worried sick. He gets angry and in a huff because he says it's not such a romantic way to reunite with your family and that dd had a long nap in the morning (he couldn't wake her up... hmm)and there was traffic etc etc etc.. so in a car back to house, in my shattered state from stressful trip and worries, I'm trying to make him feel better saying oh no of course I'm glad to see you, blah blah.. such a energy sucker.
then
yesterday DH comes back from work at 6 and as I had been up from 5:30 with dd in the morning I said to dd 'maybe daddy could give you a bath and put you in bed tonight'. (by the way I did it three days in a row because after I came back he said he can't do it because he did it three nights in a row when I was away.) Then he gets in a huge strop saying he was going to do it anyway and why I don't say it directly to him. So then I apologize and ask him directly, then he says of course he would he was going to do it anyway. Then he's still in a strop banging everything and cleaning the house, so I ask him how was his day? And he says it was great till I started bossing him around asking him to do things, why do I need to ask him to do anything why can't I just wait and see if he does it anyway?
so girls, you see what I mean? And then he asks me this morning, can you do this can you do that? I'm fed up of being labeled bossy and mean when he is basically a whining whinging I did this little thing, 'look look' and can't even help me pick a wall colour.