Ds is totally non verbal with virtually no understanding. He is frequently very very violent towards himself (hitting) and is starting to be towards others. He can have several of these meltdowns a day. Its gotten a lot worse over the past year, since he started puberty. It basically cannot go on like this, my husband is having panic attacks and angina brought on because of the stress, my teen daughters cannot revise because of his crying and violent behaviour and my baby dd isnt getting enough of my time. We basically cannot do anything as a family, and i as his carer cannot go out which is very isolating and taking a toll on my mental health. Referral to social services is recent , and the in the initial visit i was told that i could have £750 to find a sitter to take him out. They then proceeded to tell me that they think its unlikely anyone would take him on?? I said so whats next, and then they sat there and said not sure???? Im in Manchester, and im 90 percent sure that as baby dd grows up im just not going to be able to deal with him anymore. My teen dd currently has bruises where he grabbed her head and banged his head against hers