To be upset by baby clinic?

[wonderstuff]

Dont know hy i go, apparently i am making a rod for my own back by 'allowing' dd to turn over on changing mat and i should be telling her to stay still, she is 6 mo, i'm pretty sure she doesn't understand stay still, i really think they should keep advice to whats asked for. anyway i cant do anything about her lack of sleep until 7 months and co sleeping is another bad habit, she wakes every 2 hours, i cant remember the last time i slept well, i dont know why i mentioned it, just slipped out, really wanted her to say well just do what ever you need to.. thank god i bf because her weight is up the graph and i know she was about to tell me im over feeding.. am i tired and emotional or is this not supportive, i always leave feeling stupid

I remember a mad HV looking at me like I was the most out-of-control mother because my baby woke up ONCE in the night at 4 months. Like he was a most unusual baby. The irony was that I had lied and said he only woke once to get her off my back. Of course he was waking about every 5 minutes at this stage...

mine was such a twat that i took the nod and smile approach

I went every couple of weeks with DS1, but I did have a very nice HV who would tell me what the text book said I should do and then she would tell me what she (as a mum) would do. When I had DS2 and DD I only ever went when they had to have injections because my lovely HV had left by then.
I agree with other posters who have said

1. You are the expert on your baby.
2. Just dont go, you dont have to.

Where on earth are they getting these lunatic females from?

I had a reasoned discussion/stand-up row with one who was solemnly warning a crowd of sleep-deprived first-time mothers that the one thing they must never, ever do is take the baby into bed with them. Half the world is wrong then, is it?

And another nutter peered at my little boy and said I must encourage him to turn his head to the left more because his face was getting lop-sided!

Madder than a box of frogs on acid. I go every now and then because they have a decent set of scales. I wouldn't bother otherwise.

Wonderstuff - Don't go unless you have to ask them something. EVERY time I go to babyclub I get shouted at. Either overfeeding or she's losing weight, or you shouldn't let her stand up or your spoiling her. etc etc etc.

I made the mistake of mentioning we were thinking of TTCing for no2 in the next 6 months and got shouted at for that as apparently I shouldn't be thinking about another one as it would take away the love from DD

JUST DON'T GO

OMG thought I was unreasonable as always moaning about clinic! lol
I had issues with breastfeeding really. They make me feel awful and like such a bad mother as I bottle feed. I did breastfeed and anyone that has spoken to me before will know the history of Y I had to stop - no £ so poor diet so son got pee'd off...
In the end I complained and they were very apologetic but it doesnt remove how they have made me feel before or make me want to carry on going. Know how you feel

My sister is tiny and everytime the HV saw her she made a negative comment about my sister's height, until she made her cry and I happened to be with her. Oh dear, I went in and told her I would report her for her constant undermining of instinct and motherhood, I asked her if she had failed as a mother and had an overwhelming urge to make others feel as inadequate as she did as a mother????? She then said she didn't have children but if she did..... I just said thank goodness and left.
Another came out after and said what a bad day she was having.
They're just there, in my experience, to be polite to the really rough Mum's who do everything wrong but would hit them if they said anything!!!

my hv insists i have to give dd vitamin supplements as a matter of course, even though she knows she eats bloody well and isn't fussy when it comes to food.

so that's one of the superflous pieces of advice i try and disgard as soon as i leave the clinic.. they have a very 'one size fits all approach, i find'.