AIBU to feel a bit icky about this

[onmymown]

I know. Just the phrase icky makes me cringe too but I don’t really know what other word to use so bear with me.
my DH has gone on a lads holiday, just for a few days. He’s been messaging me here and there when he can and has messaged today to say they’re at a beach and casually said that there are women walking around topless/sunbathing, which he found weird as there are also kids about.
I may be slightly hormonal and I’m definitely insecure about my post partum body but AIBU to feel a bit weird that my DH is just sat on a beach somewhere looking at other women’s boobs?
can someone talk some sense into me please

What's the problem? That he's looking at other women topless? or that you feel insecure or both? I've seen plenty of women on holiday topless, mainly older women when Im in Spain, it's not uncommon. I also go topless, I'm not parading my body around, expecting attention to be lavished on me. I dont like tan lines, not a big deal. I would have an issue if my husband was ogling women though. No reason to tell you about the women, I would also expect topless bathing. Has he had form to do this kind of thing in the past?

It wouldn’t even occur to me to be bothered about this.

It’s not like he said “it’s amazing, I’m surrounded by gorgeous women with their tits out, I’m in heaven”. He just said there were topless women and he found it weird because there were kids about. If anything he sounds a bit prudish about it!

(Also, you’re failing to realise that most of these topless women are probably about 70.)

I would not be happy about this! I hate my postpartum boobs too and this would make me feel really insecure

Never understood why men or women think it's ok to go on these sorts of holidays, surely you get that out of your system before a committed relationship, not a chance I'd have it.

Weird as there are kids around? Such as him, by the sound of it.

Why has he gone on a lads' holiday when you have a new baby? I don't think that's fair at all.

Just a little triangulation there

No nice husband would tell his postpartum wife about the naked women around him. Done on purpose to make you feel insecure x Sorry

I wouldn't like that at all, any of it tbh.

If he thinks little kids seeing a bit of boob is weird wait until he finds out what those same kids ate for the first year of their lives!
Seriously OP he sounds like an immature knob

What about the other way around.On holiday with the girls on a beach topless in Ibiza beach and rang the DH and casually dropped that into conversation. I did this once as did my friend on the phone at the same time. It felt kind of cheeky but fun. I didn't think my DH thought anything of it, but years later he keeps bringing it up as a 'thing'. I does sound odd that OP's DH mentioned it, but having done the same I can kind of see why as it was just some chat.

BTW I agree the "lads holiday" when you have a newborn sounds weird. My girls week in Ibiza was just before kids arrived - I would've been really P!$$ed off if DH had done that to us!