To get annoyed with a friend

[ClaudiaAndHerFringe]

This is a man. I don't fancy him just to be clear. He's said over the years that I've had lip filler. I haven't, I don't need it, I never would. I've told him about ten times that I haven't. Actually he calls it botox and I've explained the difference between Botox and fillers but he's incapable of remembering. It proves that someone doesn't really know me if they think I would have lip filler. It's just boring and ridiculous.

Also regularly accusing me of being loud. I have a naturally loudish voice but I'm hardly Brian Blessed. Telling me yesterday to keep my voice down because people can hear and it's embarrassing. We were talking about TV shows and music, nothing controversial. But when he went to the bar he continued a conversation with a woman at the bar who really was loud (as in gobby).

And grumbling about my driving and telling me when to indicate.

What's wrong with men?

Sounds like you don’t really like him, so why is he a friend?

He's a friend from university. He can be ok most of the time but this really annoys me.

So why on earth would you continue to spend time with someone, far less time over a period of years, with someone who continually criticises your driving, tells you you’re too loud, and won’t accept you haven’t had lip fillers?

You are being very unreasonable for spending time with someone you so dislike.

Well maybe he was just a friend for a season (uni) and it’s time you both moved on?

Are all men that you encounter like this, or just this man? Yabu.

Does he ever say anything positive, or at the very least uncritical, to or about you @ClaudiaAndHerFringe ?

I don't have other male friends or colleagues who are like this no.

@ScraptionoftheCost Occasionally.

Cease contact with this arsehole.

You don't have to stay in touch with an arsehole just because you used to hang out at university. YABU for that. He's not a friend.

This is a friend?? Sounds like you hate him! I wouldn’t be wasting my time on him tbh.

And it’s this man, not ‘men’.

YABU to keep talking to someone who is annoying and rude to you. Just because you hung out with him at university doesn't mean he needs to stay in your life.

Don't waste your time on someone who makes you feel like this

I used to have a uni friend a bit like this. I decided not to see him again after he turned up to my milestone birthday one year and ruined the mood by not letting anyone else get a word in edgeways while he made his "witty" observations about people like being too loud, checking their phones too much etc, in between moaning about his recent divorce.
Sometimes the friendship has passed.

Life's too short to put up with this shit. Tell him to FO.

Your behaviour is far more inexplicable than his -- why on earth continue to see someone over a period of years when he annoys you (understandably) so much?

You're allowed to let university friendships die off if they're no longer working, you know. It's not some 'till death do you part' situation.