Me and H together 20+ years on and off. We split some time ago after I confessed to cheating and some years later reconciled. The issue's never really gone away and I've always regretted how much it affected him, especially his confidence. He changed significantly, much less outgoing, not the life and soul he used to be, and barely socialises.
Recently he's started working in a predominantly female environment and I've noticed a change in him, mostly for the better. Spring in his step, twinkle in his eye again and he's worked on his health and fitness. TBH he's been much better to be around. I'd add that he's aged really well, looks more handsome now at 50 than he ever did (whereas I wish Icould say the same for me. When we met it was a running joke among friends that I had the looks and he the personality).
He only attends the office once a fortnight but has to stay over given the distance. However from the moment he leaves the house until he returns late the following night I don't hear anything from him. The rest of the time he works from home with me. Other than overhear how charming he is on Teams/phone calls, I've absolutely no real reason to suspect anything. He tells me when he's away he finishes late, eats dinner alone and goes to straight to bed.
I'm (irrationally probably), jealous and often imagine him 'getting his own back'.
AIBU to insist he keeps in touch?