Feeling like I’m not doing enough for my developing baby during pregnancy

[Sunshine8537]

Hi,
currently 9 weeks after MMC and 1 birth (age 5)
I can’t really remember my first pregnancy and what I did but I feel like I’m not doing enough to help this one (I’m 40). I don’t know if it’s because I’ve had a loss that I’m not fully accepting it.

im not drinking, I’ve never smoked or taken drugs. The only thing I’m guilty of is drinking tea (significantly reduced) and not eating particularly well. I’ve got a stressful job but I’d say I handle my stress well.

can anyone relate?

Folic acid? Generally healthy balanced diet. Then just get on with it, your body knows what to do and the best thing you can do is look after yourself.

Are you taking a prenatal vitamin?
Regularly attending check ups and scans?

Other than that, there's not really much else to do

Just be as healthy as you can. If the pregnancy is meant to be it will be.

That means not stressing and worrying!

Folic acid and try to rest, then eat what you fancy. Good luck!

That all sounds fine!
All I could stomach for the first 20 weeks was fried food. I couldn’t stand cooking or fruit or anything remotely healthy. Just fried food, nuggets etc.
I’ve still been drinking my allowed two cups of coffee a day, I’ve had an emotionally traumatic time during this pregnancy and honestly I’ve needed vodka let alone coffee 😅 so I’m not begrudging myself coffee.
I’m 35 weeks pregnant now, baby’s doing good and growing nicely, super active!
Good luck with your pregnancy 💛

Yes taking folic.

Funny you should say about the vodka. I’m not a big drinker anyway but I’m dying for a glass of wine this time round.

i know there’s nothing more I can do I think given my age I’m just concerned of the potential risks…and this essential being out of my control.

Nozeco sparkling wine is ok if you're missing it. I found liime cordial and soda water to be basically the same as vodka and stuck with it after pregnancy, so that's worth a try too.

I honestly think finding out about pregnancy so early is a nightmare. Apart from taking folic acid (which you should be taking before you even get pregnant, if you're trying), and avoiding known toxic things, there's nothing you can do. Nothing you do is going to change the course of your pregnancy. Some women have hyperemesis and do nothing but vomit for months on end and they still end up with healthy babies. Relax, get on with life as best you can!

OP-fruit,veg,dairy,protein,nuts,seeds and oily fish preferably mackerel or sardines.

Vitamins
Pregnany yoga
As much sleep as you can
Prioritize your dental hygiene
Lift weight to build a bit of arm strength (babies in their car seats or carry cots are heavy!)
Read the baby stories or sing it songs, have a couple of familiar faves so that it feels soothed when it hears them after it's born

Do your pelvic floor exercises