Aibu to refuse to cook smelly things?

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My husband loves smoked fish and fried onions (not together but just an example) basically all the smelly foods he loves them, I completely refuse to cook them because I feel like the smell sticks to everything, your hair, curtains/carpet the entire house! I make sure windows and back door is open in the kitchen when cooking but the smells LINGERS it’s like it takes days of thoroughly cleaning to get the smell out and I have since told him I’m no longer cooking strong smelling foods. He’s obviously a bit annoyed but does anyone else agree?

YANBU to refuse to cook them, but YABU if you say he can't cook them for himself.

It doesn't take "days" to get cooking smells out of a house. YABU for over-exaggerating.

But YANBU to refuse to cook certain things. Your DH can take over if he wants to eat them so badly.

YABU. Most cooking smells. Onions FFS?! Literally in everything! I'd rather enjoy a delicious variety of foods than worry about the smells.

I can't eat eggs due to an allergy, and also hate the smell. But DP likes them and cooks them, as is his right in a jointly paid for house.

I grumble internally but never out loud.

Guessing garlic is a step too far, OP? ….

Normally I'd say the cook decides, but loads of recipes have onions in them - do you really refuse to cook any of them?

I don't agree with you. It seems to be only your way, and nobody else's.

Life is for living, not protecting your curtains from the waft of fried onions.

Seeing as the sense of taste is strongly linked to the sense of smell - that's why you can't taste much when you've got a blocked up nose - a lot of delicious food smells.

I usually find shutting the kitchen door, opening the window/putting on the fan and lighting a cook's candle usually does the trick with stronger smells. Also, clearing away thoroughly afterwards helps.

OP are you / could you be ND? The ASD members of my household have this issue: massively over sensitive to smells. YABU but that doesn’t make it less of an issue for you both.

You sound really OTT about this, OP.

Do you have other sensory issues? Because this is extreme.

The pie doesn't smell, but if you include salmon and smocked haddock and make it properly by poaching the fish and using the liquid to make the sauce, I don't see how you could avoid creating clouds of fishy steam during the making of it, particularly in homes with no extractor.

poached in milk, covered, it doesn’t smell.

Are you saying you won’t cook them but he can cook them himself or are you saying there is no smelly food to be cooked at all by anyone?

yanbu if it’s the first one
yabu if it’s the second one

I do this with vinegar in a pot of boiling water, as it evaporates it deodorises. Useful for a lot of kitchen smells.

Because no steam ever escaped from under a saucepan lid. 😂

That’s a helpful tip actually

Yabu, just open a window

DH doesn’t do any cooking, maybe I am being a little bit unfair, I literally cannot stand the smells

You are both being unreasonable IMO. You sound over sensitive and he needs to do some of the cooking.

Even if you refused to cook the smelly things and he cooked them instead you would still have the smells. What would you prefer to cook that doesn't smell? Many things I make start with frying onions and garlic. I think it smells great.

Surely in summer windows can be left open?

How is it even possible to cook without sometimes frying an onion?

I'm afraid yes you are being unreasonable- I used to have a landlady who didn't want us to fry onions- it was tyrannical, and just an excuse not to sort the flats out. You can't tell people what they can and cannot eat- I have a lovely neighbour from Southern India-but when she cooks it is very pungent, but I wouldn't dream of mentioning it to her- what she cooks is up to her. How would you cope? This could happen to you.
Practically every sauce, stew, stir fry and casserole starts with fried onions- how can you stand to cut down your menu choices so savagely? What on earth do you and your family eat? especially as your DH doesn't eat.
Really I think you have a real problem- I have heard of one or two people who can't stand fish, but onions apart from my mad landlady I've never heard of anyone who can't stand the smell of cooking onions.

Can you get him into barbecuing the smelly food outside? Gets him cooking and keeps the smell out of the house? Then he has choices too.