To wish I had had children earlier and more of them

[Oneofthosedayshey]

Due to infertility, I got pregnant (finally) at 39, had my one and only Dc at 40, I’m extremely grateful for this. Now my Dc is getting a little older (as in not the v early years) I’m feeling more and more bereft that I wasn’t able to have more children and earlier.
I spent too much time just dh and I or working, when really the happiest times were with my Dc when younger, so wish I had had more than one go at it and so wish i’d started to enquire about my fertility younger
We have one frozen embryo from age 39, but now at 47, i’m thinking it would be unfair to bring a baby into the world

I’m so envious of large, younger families

As awful as it sounds (and I would never ever put this on Dd) i’d be over the moon if she were to have a big, bustling family and early in life

I wouldn’t say you’re being reasonable or unreasonable. It’s normal to feel sad if you feel you’ve missed out on the family you’d envisaged, but there’s not much you can do about it.
Easier said than done, but I’d try to focus on your child and enjoy the advantages that come with having just the one - more time, attention and money namely…
I wouldn’t personally want to get pregnant again at 47

Totally understand this but wondering why, if you had a frozen embryo, you didn't try for another baby at 42 or 43? Or are you only starting to feel like this now? It's not totally impossible at 47, I know people who have done but also understand your thinking.

Anyway it's lovely that you are enjoying being a mum to your DD and have had such a wonderful time with her in the early years. Try to celebrate and focus on this. But remember also that a little bit of luck is involved here: If you had had or were to have a second they might not be so fun or easy!

I hope you will resolve your feelings of regret and be able to enjoy your current situation. You couldn't have known how much you would enjoy it and you made choices that you were presumably happy with at the time - and in the end that is all we can do!

I think you should just acknowledge the sadness and sit with it, not think it’s something to do anything about.

Oh she’s not easy and it hasn’t been easy 😂 but it’s been the best thing I’ve done.
I was very ill with long covid for a few years…then it seemed to late. I’d be ok being pregnant now, i’m just not sure about the future and how fair it would be on the child…if it were to be successful, i’d be giving birth at 48