Well it's not a dilemma at all as I'm choosing to ignore but it still hurts ( a tiny bit). Dh has zero opinion on the matter which is the most important as it's his sibling.
Bil emigrated to Canada about 20 years ago and mil followed him. Both totally of their own free will. They slag off the UK and much prefer Canada.
Mil said to me last year how sad it is because she grew up in and out of her aunt and uncles houses and with her cousins. I just thought well that's impossible for us as you and bil are on another continent.
Then bil posts how sad it is that his cousins was his best friends growing up but his kids and their cousins are strangers. Dc are the only cousins so it's about dc.
What is the motive for the post? He chose to move? He chooses not to see us or tell when he is in the UK. His kids are all young adults now and at no point in the previous 16 years was forming a bond important to him. If it was, he has never mentioned it. They can't ever have that bond retrospectively as they have only met maybe five times at most if that. There's never going be that " do you remember when was 8 and you fell out of the tree? Or remember the time we caught sipping aunties wine?"
We are 20 miles from central London and we often see posts of him and fil meeting with his kids. We are never asked if we want to come, we only find out he is in the UK and 40 minutes train ride away after the event. He nevers asks to catch up while he is over here.
Surely he can't really be sad it's panned out like this? My kids aren't sad. Exact words was "why would I miss something I have never known?" Why post it?