How did you react when your grown up child told you they were getting divorced?

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Was it very painful? Did you see it coming? Was it a shock when your child told you? Were you very disappointed and upset?

Not me, but when a family member divorced, the family wasn’t at all surprised because they had seen it as on the cards for quite a while beforehand. Nobody said anything, and I presume most people thought it was for the best.
That said, nobody had made out to be happy families up till then, so I suppose it was a gradual realisation that things weren’t going great and saying that they had separated was a formality.

Neither of my children are married, although both are, or have been, in long term relationships.

One of mine recently confided in me that although they were still living together they were, effectively, separated. Living separate lives but sharing the caring for their child. I told her that I am really sorry that things haven't worked out for them and I am so disappointed for her. Not for me - I just want her to be happy.