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To think you can still have this issue in a detached

45 replies

ThisLovingBlue · 08/06/2025 11:25

To think you can still suffer from neighbour noise in a detached? As in I know not connected through neighbour walls but other noise from outside

Has it been worth it if youve gone from a semi detached to a detached?

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Bananararity · 08/06/2025 12:05

I’ve lived in a flat in central London and had to put up with the noise of the heels on laminate flooring in the flat above, as well as the sound of anything that fell down the down pipe outside the window of my basement flat. I grew up in a detached house on a main road next to a church, there was no neighbour noise but a fair bit of traffic at all hours. London flat was tolerable because London was generally noisy and the house I grew up in was too because once you got used to the traffic noise you didn’t notice it any more.

My current home is a detached bungalow on a quiet A road in rural mid Wales. There are houses around us and on any given day you can hear leaf blowers, sit on mowers, pressure washers and our dim witted neighbour listening to music on his car stereo while using his strimmer. We don’t have much loud partying but every time a property goes on sale there’s tension in the air in case it’s a purchase for a dreaded Airbnb and the inevitable hot tub!

Of all the places I’ve lived, the worst has been a detached house on an estate. Although it was detached, everyone was on top of each other and you could smell good cooking two doors down and hear snoring from across the drive. It was awful.

Sometimes the proximity of a lot of other lives can be worse than the closeness of just one.

pontivex · 08/06/2025 12:09

Indoor day to day living means no noise from neighbours which is great. Gardens…. Worse. The concept of separation and a hedge means they don’t think you can hear their music, trampoline, barky dogs, screechy kids, massive bbq parties, hot tub, power tools, endless random banging of things.

ThisLovingBlue · 08/06/2025 12:10

Bananararity · 08/06/2025 12:05

I’ve lived in a flat in central London and had to put up with the noise of the heels on laminate flooring in the flat above, as well as the sound of anything that fell down the down pipe outside the window of my basement flat. I grew up in a detached house on a main road next to a church, there was no neighbour noise but a fair bit of traffic at all hours. London flat was tolerable because London was generally noisy and the house I grew up in was too because once you got used to the traffic noise you didn’t notice it any more.

My current home is a detached bungalow on a quiet A road in rural mid Wales. There are houses around us and on any given day you can hear leaf blowers, sit on mowers, pressure washers and our dim witted neighbour listening to music on his car stereo while using his strimmer. We don’t have much loud partying but every time a property goes on sale there’s tension in the air in case it’s a purchase for a dreaded Airbnb and the inevitable hot tub!

Of all the places I’ve lived, the worst has been a detached house on an estate. Although it was detached, everyone was on top of each other and you could smell good cooking two doors down and hear snoring from across the drive. It was awful.

Sometimes the proximity of a lot of other lives can be worse than the closeness of just one.

@Bananararity thx

round my area outside noise mostly normal or quiet noise just my semi detached wall as both of our living rooms and bedrooms next to each other and thinking of spending money on soundproofing as it would be cheaper than a detached

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user2848502016 · 08/06/2025 12:12

Depends, we’re in a semi and I wouldn’t say our neighbours are particularly noisy but we do still hear them. Out last house was detached so obviously no neighbour noise in the house but our gardens were still attached so did hear them outside sometimes. It just depends how bothered you are about neighbour noise I guess. At least with a detached you’re not going to have as much of a problem if you have unsociably noisy neighbours.

MoominMai · 08/06/2025 12:13

Bananararity · 08/06/2025 12:05

I’ve lived in a flat in central London and had to put up with the noise of the heels on laminate flooring in the flat above, as well as the sound of anything that fell down the down pipe outside the window of my basement flat. I grew up in a detached house on a main road next to a church, there was no neighbour noise but a fair bit of traffic at all hours. London flat was tolerable because London was generally noisy and the house I grew up in was too because once you got used to the traffic noise you didn’t notice it any more.

My current home is a detached bungalow on a quiet A road in rural mid Wales. There are houses around us and on any given day you can hear leaf blowers, sit on mowers, pressure washers and our dim witted neighbour listening to music on his car stereo while using his strimmer. We don’t have much loud partying but every time a property goes on sale there’s tension in the air in case it’s a purchase for a dreaded Airbnb and the inevitable hot tub!

Of all the places I’ve lived, the worst has been a detached house on an estate. Although it was detached, everyone was on top of each other and you could smell good cooking two doors down and hear snoring from across the drive. It was awful.

Sometimes the proximity of a lot of other lives can be worse than the closeness of just one.

Of all the places I’ve lived, the worst has been a detached house on an estate. Although it was detached, everyone was on top of each other and you could smell good cooking two doors down and hear snoring from across the drive

@Bananararity wow, I never thought a detached could be that problematic! I’m very lucky in that my detached is in an established large street with much space around. But in near future I may want to downsize to a much smaller detached and I would never have thought to consider that closer proximity wouldn’t only have louder ‘day noise’ but all this other stuff you’d never know unless someone told you - so thanks!

Bananararity · 08/06/2025 12:29

@ThisLovingBlue

We did this to the ceiling in our London flat after heeled lady moved out. It was a nightmare because to improve the situation in our flat we had to soundproof the floor of the flat above. I have no idea why it was that way. New owners of the flat above we’re ok with it because it improved the situation for them too. The cost was significant at the time, around £15k and we had to replace the flooring of their flat on a like for like basis. I can’t imagine you would have this problem.

In terms of alleviating the noise, it went some way to helping but it didn’t block it completely. I’d say it went half way or a bit over. You could hear shoes on the tiled and laminate part of the floor, moving chairs etc, but nowhere near as ear catching as before. We had more success from lagging the down pipe! However it can’t have been that bad as my ex partner still lives in the flat.

If I’m honest, I’m glad we had it done but there was still noise, and although it was quieter we’d just spent a fair amount of money on half resolving the issue.

ThisLovingBlue · 08/06/2025 17:25

@MoominMai surprised at that but then I guess if you have bad neighbours in a detached its still a nightmare

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ThisLovingBlue · 08/06/2025 17:27

Bananararity · 08/06/2025 12:29

@ThisLovingBlue

We did this to the ceiling in our London flat after heeled lady moved out. It was a nightmare because to improve the situation in our flat we had to soundproof the floor of the flat above. I have no idea why it was that way. New owners of the flat above we’re ok with it because it improved the situation for them too. The cost was significant at the time, around £15k and we had to replace the flooring of their flat on a like for like basis. I can’t imagine you would have this problem.

In terms of alleviating the noise, it went some way to helping but it didn’t block it completely. I’d say it went half way or a bit over. You could hear shoes on the tiled and laminate part of the floor, moving chairs etc, but nowhere near as ear catching as before. We had more success from lagging the down pipe! However it can’t have been that bad as my ex partner still lives in the flat.

If I’m honest, I’m glad we had it done but there was still noise, and although it was quieter we’d just spent a fair amount of money on half resolving the issue.

thank u @Bananararity

Do you think if you had spent even more money and doubled the soundproofing it would have worked more than half? tho guess at that point it would probably make more sense to move I guess

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ThisLovingBlue · 08/06/2025 19:41

bump

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Roseglass · 08/06/2025 19:49

I love my detached would never go back to being attached (if I can help it) if I was to move I wouldn’t consider anything else.

ARichtGoodDram · 08/06/2025 19:51

It totally depends on the build of the houses.

We went to see a new build detached and despite quite a distance we could hear the neighbours (and absolutely everything going on in the street). The soundproofing was dire.

Our house now is detached, but very close to the neighbour, you can literally just walk between them at a squeeze. Don't hear a sound. Beyond the hallway you don't even hear cars pulling up on our drive. Even when my teen son comes crashing down the stairs you don't hear it in other parts of the house. 1930s build and wonderfully built.
Of all the houses we looked at it has the closest neighbours, but it was the quietest house.

cinnamongirl123 · 08/06/2025 19:56

Of course there is noise all around, or can be.
All a detached eliminates is direct noise through walls/floors/ceilings.

DuesToTheDirt · 08/06/2025 20:23

Surely it depends on what noise you can hear through the walls, and when. I wouldn't be too bothered by coughing and microwaves pinging, but if I could hear their music, or I was woken up by their washing machine at 6am, or there was a lot of shouting, it would be different.

NinaGeiger · 08/06/2025 20:30

You do need to keep in mind that detached houses can be more expensive to heat than semi-detached/terrace as they have more external walls.

The other thing to consider is the layout. I grew up in a semi-detached house but we never heard a peep from the neighbours because all the shared walls were the hallway/stairs etc, and all the bedrooms and living rooms were the external bits.

BlueMum16 · 08/06/2025 20:30

I lived in a semi and although I could hear the neighbours it didn't bother me. They would comment on my cough not being better though on my baby carrying so eventually we moved to a detached.

We've been in the detached house 15 years. Neighbours either side are fine, older couple with a dog that barks or family with teens/youngster playing football.. People at the back - I can eat their music particularly in the summer - it's a constant thud - but not easy to pinpoint which house to go and have a word.

I wouldn't choose to be joined again though if I can avoid it.

It's outside noise that I can try and ignore, not within rooms in my house. Plus I don't need to worry about my kids running up the stairs etc and disturbing anyone.

sparrowflewdown · 08/06/2025 20:34

I live in a detached house but our gardens are joined. Our next door neighbours are into classic cars and they are always messing around with them running the engines. The house vibrates and the fumes are awful.

KickHimInTheCrotch · 08/06/2025 20:47

I live in a small detached and still v close to my neighbours. Was end of terrace before that and I probably preferred that for various reasons. I'd be happy to live semi detached in the future or if I was moving to another detached I'd make sure I had more land/space.

missmollygreen · 08/06/2025 21:02

The best thing we ever did was move to a detached house.

I could not put a price on laying in bed and not hearing next doors tv, or sitting in the living room listening to their music/tv or alexa alarm going off for 15 mins (not even exaggerating)

There is only so much you can do with soundproofing.

ElfAndSafetyBored · 08/06/2025 21:17

We’re in a detached house with a 100ft garden and for at least a year and a half suffered at the hands of the man who lived with a garden backing into ours but to the right. He had a hot tub and played his music so loud I could heard it in the front of my house with all the windows shut. He’d do this Thursday through to Sunday and sometimes other days. And often from about 7pm.

I did storm round to complain several times but he never heard me knocking on the door.

He’s gone now thankfully but I don’t think I’ve ever wished harm on someone as much.

MsCactus · 08/06/2025 21:24

I moved into a detached home, in a row of detached houses, and I've never ever heard a single noise from a neighbour.

In my semi and previous terrace I heard lots of noise from neighbours. It's not even comparable - we hear nothing in a detached house.

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