Male attention after losing weight

[FlamingoFloss]

hi All, I’ve lost a significant amount of weight in recent years after spending most of my life being overweight. I’m really happy with my weight loss but don’t actually feel any different in myself, if that makes sense. I’m still me and haven’t changed the way I interact with anyone at all.
What I have noticed is the way I am now treated differently by (some- not all) men. These are men I have known for years in friend/family situations but now, rather than having the usual conversations, it seems to be almost constant ‘comments on my looks, my weight, how sexy I look and even comments like, shall we run away together. These are not just one off comments - it’s also, putting a hand on my waist/hip - you know the kind of thing.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s nice to be complimented but this feels like more and makes me uncomfortable. I’m still me and still act like me and treat people in exactly the same way so why can’t these people still just treat me the way they always used to too?

You should be feeling great about yourself. What others think or do as a result, is irrelevant.

I’m still me and still act like me and treat people in exactly the same way so why can’t these people still just treat me the way they always used to too?

Because to them you aren’t the same person. They now find you physically attractive. All you can do is set boundaries and tell them when they cross a line.

It’s not irrelevant if they are being lecherous sleezebags though. Call them out on their behaviour.

Because unfortunately, people are judged on how they look, and will be treated as such, by others, depending on how they view that person.

It's human nature really (apart from the touching, make your boundaries strong).

Even little children tend to gravitate towards attractive looking teachers, or towards other attractive looking children when choosing friends.

It's a shame but it's true. The overweight child is rarely the most popular, which is what makes me think human nature pays a part.

@Dangermoo You are absolutely right, I know. Im just finding this shift in how (some) people are not reacting to me to be a big uncomfortable. Maybe I just don’t know how to deal with it. i am feeling good about myself and am proud of what I have achieved

@OhMyGollyGoshGosh yes, you are exactly right I suppose, in the grand scheme of things. How sad though. We all have value and we shouldn’t be judged on what we look like

You bloody well should. Go out there and enjoy your new figure x