Dating Apps and bf

[AmyCo]

When myself and my partner got together over 12 months ago, he told me he deleted his online dating accounts. ( I didn’t have any ).
7 months into our relationship I later learn that his accounts aren’t deleted. He only hid them as he was tied up with monthly subscriptions on both accounts.
I was very taken back as nothing about this was mentioned before. Why couldn’t he have mentioned before that he couldn’t delete anything until his contract has ended? I never asked or prompted him to “delete” them, he done it of his own back. When I asked about it he told me he didn’t think it would matter as no one could see his profile.
I understood it was out of his control and just asked him to be more transparent in the future.
Fast forward a few months and my question is this …
Both of his dating accounts have reached the end of their contract now. He’s no longer tied up in monthly subscriptions. They ended one month apart.
But he still hasn’t deleted his profiles on either account. To him because it’s hidden it’s irrelevant.
Am I being daft?
He says all the right lovely things but I’m a firm believer in actions speak louder than words.

Does anyone on here have any advice ?
Im not really sure how it’s making me feel?
He knew it upset me last time that he wasn’t transparent.

Has anyone been in something similar?

He told me he needed prompting to delete them. But I feel a 40 year old man shouldn’t need prompting over something he knew upset me before. He was still receiving emails with offers etc so he knew his account was still on there.

Ok so no age gap at all really. There’s my theory blown 😂

I asked because he sounds as if he thinks he’s much smarter than you. So for whatever reason there seems to be a weird dynamic in your relationship where he thinks he can pull the wool over your eyes and serve you up a steady diet of lies. Wonder what else he’s lied about? I hope you’re using protection!

I’m ND and I come across as a bit clueless sometimes so I’ve had men try and take the piss. Not saying you’re ND but you may come across as super trusting and a bit naive.

I know that I can be a bit slow to process things but once I realise what’s happening I don’t waste my time at all which surprises them and have no issues cutting ties. I think this man will get a shock if you decide to walk away which IMO you should.

Ahhh it’s all your fault. What a guy 🙄

You’ve been together 12 months +. The longest subscription for these apps is usually 12 months. So unless he renewed his subscription while in the relationship with you, it should have expired by now.
Maybe he renewed during the early months of your relationship, and it will expire soon. But it does seem he is being dishonest about it. It may be that he is really bad at managing his money and allows rolling subscriptions. I wouldn’t want to be saddled with someone like that either.

OP, read the FAQs or Google ‘how to close/delete my account’ for the specific apps he’s on. There’s no need to speculate as to whether he’s been lying about his inability to delete them (he definitely has), as it’s very easy to find out.

You know deep down you’re being lied too. You’re just here for confirmation. It’s time to part ways

To be fair, I would have just deleted the apps off my phone and not used them without deleting my actual accounts/profiles

I deleted my accounts when I got into a relationship that I wanted to be in. And deleted the apps from my phone. You can do it in less than a minute, subscription or not.
If he didn’t, you’re still an option and he’s keeping them as he’s no intention of committing to you. And he’s lying and expecting you to just stop talking about it.
Leave him, he’ll be back on the apps within a week and good luck to the next woman he strings alone. He’ll do the same to her.

In my experience he is a liar. He has only hidden them because he still has women on there that he wants to keep details of or chats with. Had i listened to my own gut instinct when my now ex said the same thing after we were exclusive then I would have saved myself a lot of heartache.