To be annoyed by being dropped by “friend” 2 weeks in a row

[Velvetrevolution]

My friend invited me round last week, but cancelled the day before because she was cleaning her cupboards. Fair enough. This week, she invited me over for a casual drink as she had some friends over. I texted to confirm in the morning, and bought Prosecco and a nice gift for her other friend (that I’ve met a few times) who has been unwell. Only not to have heard from her (she said she’d message me later about times). I take it she can’t be bothered. WWYD?

My friend invited me round last week, but cancelled the day before because she was cleaning her cupboards. Fair enough.

Surely you don't actually feel that's fair enough?

I would ask her if she realises how rude it is to invite someone to do something, and then cancel them in favour of 'cleaning cupboards'. I would also say that I don't appreciate being expected to hang around, wasting my time waiting for timings, that are not forthcoming, and then ask her if she has a problem of some sort. If she says no, she's just disorganised or whatever, then I'd probably let the friendship drift, as she's clearly not that into it.

Fuck that op. She is telling you exactly where you are in her list of priorities. I would have given her a second chance just in case she is socially awkward the first time but after the second time it would be a firm no from me. You should be around people who make you feel wanted and loved. This friend is not it

And this is a friend?!

Don't be a doormat.

God no, dump her. You're worth more than this.

Erm if I was invited to a friend only choosing to then clean cupboards I wouldn't be back. Lamest excuse I've ever heard lol

My friend invited me round last week, but cancelled the day before because she was cleaning her cupboards. Fair enough.

It's not fair enough. That's a totally crap thing to do. Please think more of yourself than to accept this.

Put her in the bin

At least she cancelled the first time. Today she’s just left me hanging all day after making a definite arrangement. I’ll maybe message to remind her, even though she’s obviously just dumped me by this time.

I would send her a message calling her out on it. She has been extremely rude. I wonder if the other friend is there just now and she just didn't want you to go.

Cleaning out her cupboards 🤣🤣🤣. She's either a shit liar or super boring lm afraid

I wouldn't message her at all but certainly next time she messaged me I would let her have it with both barrels!

There are clearly no consequences to cancelling on you if you think ‘I’m cleaning my cupboards’ is an adequate excuse.